What should you do when a man says he loves you but sometimes does not act like it?

Answer 1

I'm no Dr. Phil, but no one is perfect, so no one, not even someone who loves you very much, is gonna show it all the time, at least not as much as you'd like or in ways that you will find comforting every time. Many people also have this infuriating trait of being mean to the people they love most. That's no excuse for bad behavior, but if he acts badly toward you, perhaps you could calmly point out to him that he's not being nice and tell him why in plain talk, plain enough even for a dopey guy to understand. But try not to escalate the whole emotion thing; many guys react poorly to that. Having said that, words are cheap; actions matter. If he's frequently a jerk, then perhaps he's not being honest about his true feelings for you. If he's nice only when he wishes to get something from you -- you know what I'm talking about -- then perhaps you should cut him loose. One other thing: if you are young, meaning if you're still in high school, then just forget about all this "love" stuff. Feelings are fleeting. And boyfriends come and go. If he likes to be with you and you with him, leave it at that. Have fun while it lasts and enjoy each other's company. Don't get all wrapped up with one guy. And never ask a guy if he loves you. It comes off as needy and will only produce an answer that will be one of two things: a lie, or not the answer you wanna hear.