What should you do when your husband verbally abuses you in front of your teen-aged daughter what is the effect of this on her psychologically?

Answer 1

You should discuss with your husband the necessity for providing a loving, nurturing and respectful environment for your child. You need to set boundaries with your husband and let him know that having your daugher grow up in a household with domestic violence (verbal abuse is a form of domestic violence) could be enough to have her removed from your home by the department of children and family services for 'failure to protect'. Obviously it would have to occur on more than one occassion, but isn't once enough? Minors should not be exposed to unhealthy behavior from their parents. What may happen is that she will internalize his behavior and your reaction to it by attempting to normalize the situation and telling herself that all families behave like this. At the very least you need to talk to her and tell her you love her and that not all men behave in her fathers manner or lack of.