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No...almost impossible.
Generally, a person names a beneficiary when they set up a 401K account. The account manager will distribute the proceeds according to that instruction when it receives official notification of the death.
Your father should make certain he has named a beneficiary on the account. That way it will pass directly to the beneficiary. If he doesn't name a beneficiary it will pass to his estate and his estate will need probating. In the event of his death you should get expert advice on what to do with the account. You may want to keep it as your own 401K if possible.
Probably Spouse first, then his Estate then the children.
In South Carolina, if there are no assets in the deceased person's estate other than a 401K and the person was a legal resident of Florida at the time of death, it may not be necessary to place an ad in the newspaper to notify creditors. However, it is advisable to consult with an attorney familiar with the laws of both South Carolina and Florida to ensure all necessary steps are taken to handle the estate appropriately.
Your son had the right to name a beneficiary of his choosing for his 401K. Since it will bypass probate, there is no way for you to protest it unless you hire an attorney and try to bring a suit to a court of equity. It is unlikely that your suit would succeed.
IF you are still the beneficiary on file for your ex-spouse then you are legally entitled to that money. If there was an updated beneficiary that lists other people as the beneficiary then you are not. On caveat is if you are listed as the beneficiary and the ex-spouse has a will in place that leaves the account to someone else, then you are not entitled.
Usually single parents assign the person they name as a caregiver for the child in the event of their death. In some cases, divorce papers may specify that the spouses name each other beneficiary until the child reaches legal age.
It is considered part of the estate for the purpose of determining estate tax. It is owned by the decedent if that person had the right to change the beneficiary up until the moment of his or her death. It may pass outside of a probate estate, however, if there is a valid beneficiary designation. State law should also be considered.
form_title=401k Retirement Plan form_header=With a 401k plan you can choose to defer a portion of your salary and save for retirement. Who is your primary beneficiary?*= _[50] How long have you worked for your employer?*= _Enter Number of Years[50] What percentage of your salary do you want to invest?*= _[50] Would you like to contribute to your 401k weekly or bi weekly?*= () Weekly () Bi Weekly
Your 401K account is exempt from creditors when you file BK. So leave the account alone. If you withdraw money and transfer it to another type of account, then the BK trustee can seize that money. Because of that, it is NEVER advisable to withdraw from your 401K when a BK is possible in the future.