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Where can a person go who has been a victim of a narcissistic abuser?
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∙ 16y ago
Go ANYWHERE! Go to your family. Go to your friends. Go to another apartment, house or condo. Go to church. JUST GO. Don't look back. I have been where you are and I can tell you with CERTAINTY......move on! Don't wait until tomorrow. Don't try to fix it. Don't stay for the kids. Don't stay for the abuser. Put this in your rearview mirror and keep going. Good Luck.
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Why is it not OK to expose the very people that use abuse and control their victim until the victim sees what is happening and realizes shes been scammed by narcissistic ego maniac on the prowl again?
It is OK to expose the person that uses abuse to control their victim, but it is the victim that has to report their abuser. Like any abuser whether narcissistic or has a large ego others do see these flaws in the abuser, but in many cases the victim at the beginning (unaware) often refuses to believe what others have to say about their abuser until the victim finds out the hard way. Many victims can feel ashamed or angry that it took them so long to figure out that the person they loved is an abuser, but abusers are extremely sly when it comes to luring their victims into their web. There is not much you can do about the abuser if you have left him, but you should get help from an Abused Woman's Center or a psychologist to learn the signs of abusive behavior so you do not make the same mistake twice. There are often small signs from an abuser from the beginning such as perhaps telling you what to wear; order your meals at restaurants and then slowly they alienate you from your family and friends. Then the abuser has you under their complete control and that is when the victim sees the ugly side of their abuser. You can tell anyone you like what the abuser is like and some will believe you and others will not or you can move forward in your life and realize you have learned from the bad relationship and will not make the same mistake again. Generally abusers will be caught at their own game.
Who is most likely to be the victim of a narcissistic abuser?
AnswerSadly enough, the most likely victim would be the one who has been abused before. Someone who the abuser deems to be vulnerable, and easy to manipulate. Often, it is the women/girl who is longing for the father figure. The abuser takes advantage of the opportunity to fill in this role, through applying rigid rules and controlling her every move. Despite their intimate relationship, she may continue to see him as a father, and use this to excuse his behavior.
Should a victim who has been researching abuse demand to be treated with respect by their abuser in exchange for stopping their research?
No. And you can't bribe someone to treat you well. Either the person is going to respect you or they aren't. You can't say, "Tell you what, treat me well and I'll stop researching abuse." If you're the victim, you have no leverage. The abuser has all the control. The victim is usually not in the position to be making deals and demands. The only thing that will stop the abuse is getting away from the abuser. ~ T
What happens if the victim does not show up to a domestic violence case in New York?
The court will record the fact the victim did not turn up for a domestic violence case and it will be up to the victim's lawyer to decide what is next. Sometimes the victim of abuse feels threatened by her abuser or has been threatened to drop the case against the abuser.
What role does fear play in abusive relationships?
The abuser of the victim will first alienate the victim from their family and friends and can even move to another town in some cases. An abuser is sly as a fox and at first often can win over not only the victim with kindness and generosity, but also win over family and friends. However, there are many cases where family and friends can often see right through the abuser even before he segregates his victim. Once the two are alone the changes can come quickly such as verbal abuse (the abuser is inwardly unhappy about their own failures in life and will transfer this onto the victim) and then the physical abuse often comes next. Sometimes the abuser will never apologize to his victim, but many do and continue to promise that they will never do it again, but they do. The abuser is aware they have total control over their victim and if the victim shows any sign of independence or that they are going to leave the relationship this is when the real fear starts because the abuser will instill the fear of either killing their victim; their family or, if there are children the abuser may threaten to harm the children or have the victim believe she will never get her children as she is an unfit mother. The victim is basically brainwashed; lost all confidence in themselves; has been alienated from her family and friends and has nowhere to turn. The fear is real and the threats from the abuser are often real as well.
Can the person abusing an elderly go to jail?
A person who abuses an elder person who has no control and can not defend themselves is of low character and yes, if there are marks on the victim and the abuse has been reported to police the abuser can and should go to jail
How people who harm and abuse conceal what is happening?
Individuals who are physical or verbal in nature have a set pattern. Many abusers can be charming; likable; win over family members of the person they are going out with. Little by little the abuser's pattern of control over their victim (and they are a victim of an abuser) can simply be as innocent as telling the prospective victim what to wear or not to wear or, telling the person what to order in a restaurant. The control at the beginning is so minor that the prospective victim is not even aware of it. The abuser will control with one hand and perhaps give gifts with the other leading the victim innocent to the fact they are starting to be controlled. It is a myth that poverty stricken individuals to uneducated people are abused and media noted individuals (and in all aspects of life) can be abused. Slowly the abuser segregates his victim from their family and friends and eventually, if they choose to live together or marry the abuser will be sure to live some distance away from the victim's family. As the months go on the abuser then psychologically works on his victim causing the victim to feel disorientated; guilty; demoralized and has a great lack of confidence. Sometimes the abuse is physical and 'the slap' at first, by the abuser, was a 'mistake' and the victim believes it will never happen again as the abuser has apologized, but it does happen over and over again and the beatings can become worse. If the couple should go out in public the abuser holds a tight rein and threatens the victim to act normal as if nothing were wrong. The victim always accepts what the abuser says because they do not want to be physically harmed. Some abusers can go so far as to threaten the person's life; that of any children they may have together or even the victim's immediate family. To the abuser the victim is chattel (their property) which they feel gives them the right to treat the victim as they wish. It is also a myth that only men abuse women, but the statistics are showing that women can also abuse men. Most men are brought up not to strike a woman and do not and it leaves the male victim in a difficult situation. Males are not the type that would tell friends that their girlfriend or wife are physically attacking them or verbally abusing them as men have basically been brought up as being the dominant one physically and only women are abused. So, the male victim is left to fend for himself and do the best he can. Like the female victim he will cover up any sign of abuse because of shame and the guilt of letting it happen. There are Abuse Centers for both women and men in many States and in Canada.
What would be a narcissistic or sociopathic animal What animal would be analogous to that type of person?
There have been accounts of narcissistic dogs so that is one example
Can an abuse victim get to a point where they seem to be emulating the abuser without realizing it when they just have had enough of being manipulated and controlled and are starting to fight back?
Even a mild-mannered person (male/female) can be cornered one too many times and come out fighting. If it's mental abuse arguing pursues, but if the victim has been physically abused she will probably end up the loser in the fight to save herself. The only recourse is to plan her escape and head for the first Abused Women Center in her area, or, press charges against her abuser and be sure she is not in the same home with him when he's arrested. Yes, victims of abuse can emulate their abuser in their own minds, and, if they can free themselves of their abuser and start another life, without counseling this person can become abusive to a new partner, their children or friends. Marcy
What do you call a person who has just been robbed?
A person who has just been robbed could be referred to as a victim of robbery.
When does a court give an abuser custody of children?
When they have been determined to not be a an abuser. Courts do not grant custody of children to adults who have been determined to be abusive.When they have been determined to not be a an abuser. Courts do not grant custody of children to adults who have been determinedto be abusive.When they have been determined to not be a an abuser. Courts do not grant custody of children to adults who have been determinedto be abusive.When they have been determined to not be a an abuser. Courts do not grant custody of children to adults who have been determinedto be abusive.
What part of speech is victim?
The word "victim" is a noun. It refers to a person who has been harmed, injured, or killed as a result of a crime, accident, or other event.
