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Sadly enough, the most likely victim would be the one who has been abused before. Someone who the abuser deems to be vulnerable, and easy to manipulate. Often, it is the women/girl who is longing for the father figure. The abuser takes advantage of the opportunity to fill in this role, through applying rigid rules and controlling her every move. Despite their intimate relationship, she may continue to see him as a father, and use this to excuse his behavior.
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How people who harm and abuse conceal what is happening?
Individuals who are physical or verbal in nature have a set pattern. Many abusers can be charming; likable; win over family members of the person they are going out with. Little by little the abuser's pattern of control over their victim (and they are a victim of an abuser) can simply be as innocent as telling the prospective victim what to wear or not to wear or, telling the person what to order in a restaurant. The control at the beginning is so minor that the prospective victim is not even aware of it. The abuser will control with one hand and perhaps give gifts with the other leading the victim innocent to the fact they are starting to be controlled. It is a myth that poverty stricken individuals to uneducated people are abused and media noted individuals (and in all aspects of life) can be abused. Slowly the abuser segregates his victim from their family and friends and eventually, if they choose to live together or marry the abuser will be sure to live some distance away from the victim's family. As the months go on the abuser then psychologically works on his victim causing the victim to feel disorientated; guilty; demoralized and has a great lack of confidence. Sometimes the abuse is physical and 'the slap' at first, by the abuser, was a 'mistake' and the victim believes it will never happen again as the abuser has apologized, but it does happen over and over again and the beatings can become worse. If the couple should go out in public the abuser holds a tight rein and threatens the victim to act normal as if nothing were wrong. The victim always accepts what the abuser says because they do not want to be physically harmed. Some abusers can go so far as to threaten the person's life; that of any children they may have together or even the victim's immediate family. To the abuser the victim is chattel (their property) which they feel gives them the right to treat the victim as they wish. It is also a myth that only men abuse women, but the statistics are showing that women can also abuse men. Most men are brought up not to strike a woman and do not and it leaves the male victim in a difficult situation. Males are not the type that would tell friends that their girlfriend or wife are physically attacking them or verbally abusing them as men have basically been brought up as being the dominant one physically and only women are abused. So, the male victim is left to fend for himself and do the best he can. Like the female victim he will cover up any sign of abuse because of shame and the guilt of letting it happen. There are Abuse Centers for both women and men in many States and in Canada.
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When is Victimization most likely to occur?
Victimization is most likely to occur when individuals are in vulnerable situations, such as being alone in an unsafe area, under the influence of alcohol or drugs, or when carrying valuable items. It can also happen in situations where there is a power imbalance, such as in cases of domestic abuse or workplace harassment.
Why do some of the answers to abuse questions seem to further blame the victim rather than making the abuser 100 accountable for his actions?
Because once the behavior is identified, the victim can leave and remove herself from the situation, but those who continue are now taking part in their own abuse. Most advice regarding abusers tell the victim to get away from the situation, but most of them don't. Yes, the abuser causes the problem and is at fault, but the victim is an enabler who allows it to continue. If someone is being abused, she should leave, although many people consider that to be blaming the victim. Unfortunately, it's just a realistic approach to dealing with the problem.
In what ways a victim of phising would most likely be contacted?
By instant message
Is it wise to give your abuser another chance?
No it is not wise to go back to your abuser because they will only abuse you again and perhaps the next time around you go back to them the abuse will get worse. Abusers are generally a product of their own environment they grew up in and have most likely witnessed abuse between their parents and therefore they have carried what they have learned from the parents; plus the frustration and rage they feel within themselves onto their own relationships with the opposite sex. Abusers can be foxy with controlling their victim (and you are a victim of abuse) by sweet talking their victim; tricking the victim into thinking they are the nicest person one would want to meet, but slowly they manipulate their victim by isolating them from their family and friends and then controlling their victim by telling them what they can think; where they can go or, in many cases work their magic on their victim by verbally abusing the victim into thinking that they are less a human being; the victim loses their independence and begins to believe their abuser. If you are one of the lucky ones and managed to leave your abuser then be wise and keep moving forward and don't look back! You deserve a much better partner in your life and you can attain this if you see a counselor to learn tools so you do not choose another abusive partner because often victims of abuse choose these types of people without realizing it such as 'being looked after and feeling secure' to a myriad of other reasons.
How people who harm and abuse individuals conceal what is happening?
To conceal it well, they need to have power over victim. To gain this power they spend quite a while in early stages of relationship convincing victim they are all they have and are dependant on them. Threats are common, they instill fear in the victim. Because the victim feels love for the person and believes they have noone else, they do what they are told and even help to conceal the abuse themselves. Its a mind game. I know this. I was a victim. So if you think someone is being abused, they most likely are, but will not admit it because of fear. They will even defend the abuser.
Should Children of verbally abused mom expect apology from boyfriend?
For anyone who is the victim of abuse to expect that they would have an apology would be a terrible injustice to the victim. It would put power into the hands of the abuser again. It wouldn't be fair to the victim to expect an apology. Not only in this case but in most cases an apology shouldn't be expected.
Why do abuse books suggest that the victim get counseling to deal with the abuse when it is obvious that the victim will never be truly happy until the abuser is out of their life?
Most books tell you to leave the abuser and then get the counseling. That's what Abused Women's Centers are for. They not only give the victim a safe place to stay, but help them get on their feet by going to court (if need be re their abuser) fight for custody of their children, and help them find a job. In payment for this they expect the victim to do their part by learning about the Cycle of Abuse and also taking their programs so the victim will not go back to her abuser or, will not choose another abusive mate. These groups are wonderful because it puts the victim in a group of other abused women and they don't feel so alone in their plight. One can read all the books they want, but I call it "arm chair psychiatry" and the victim has to be serious enough to really want to get out of the relationship and thus, "The Abused Women's Centers." Marcy Sometimes abuse has left the victim's self-esteem in such a bad state that the victim has no courage or energy left anymore to leave or to make any other important decisions. As abuse is all about control, it's important that the victim starts to feel in control and empowered. Leaving the abuser must be her decision, no-one else's. For many victims, leaving also means financial hardship, divorce and custody proceedings etc. It is not easy to leave, and the victim will certainly need all her courage to end the cycle.
Who are the two most likely victims of a hate crime based on race and religion?
African-American is the most likely to be a victim of a hate crime based on race. Jewish people are the most likely based on religion.
How can a victim leave an abuser with no money?
* Most victims of abuse just want to leave with the clothes on their back and are not worried about leaving their abuser penniless. The abuser has taken everything from their victim ... their dignity; peace of mind; brain washed them into believing no other man would want them and they are useless and will never make it out in the world on their own; alienated them from their family and friends and controlled all money issues in the relationship. If there are children involved then the best you can hope for is child support and that would have to go through the courts. Victims of abuse generally want no part of their abuser and will do anything to stay completely away. The victim should seek help from Women's Abuse Centers to find a 'safe place' until they can get on their feet. These centers give moral support; programs about victims of abuse; go to court with them; help with any children the victim may have and help them find a job. If you are smart you'll head out the door and never look back and not look for revenge because the abuser always loses in the end ... they hang themselves with their own rope.
After being in a verbally abusive relationship does the victim often become the abuser in her next relationship?
It does often happen that people will learn how to get their way through verbal aggression, from their own experiences of being verbally abused. Life is an endless learning experience, but sometimes people learn the wrong things. Answer I think it COULD happen but I think it would be the exception and not the rule. Victims in these kinds of situations are usually not abusive types of people - that's why they are victims. If it is an adult who grew up in a verbally abusive environment they may be the victim for a while and then finally snap and turn the tables and become the abuser but I think in most circumstances the victim would not become the abuser in the next relationship.
