To remove a cigarette lighter from a Toyota 4Runner, pull the lighter straight towards you. Pull gently until it becomes free.
there is no fuse there is a fuseable link inside the lighter plug
You will have to use the lighter in your pocket because the car does not have one.
It is located with the rest of the fuses under the dash between the steering column, and the left kick panel. The fuse cover will be marked with fuse identification.
If the cigarette lighter is not working and the ACC fuse, inside the car, left of steering wheel, is still good (radio is working), the "fuse" on the back side of the cigarette lighter socket, a brown wire, has blown. Socket needs to be replaced or fixed with a soldering iron and a new wire.
You will find that info in the owners manual.