its under the intake in the front of the engine
Just follow the positive (red) battery cable down to the starter.
You could turn off the valet switch which usually is located under the dash in the area of the steering column.
Inside the oil pan
The starter is located on the passenger side of the car attached by 2 bolts to the bell housing.
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At the left rear under the engine.
bottom of engine below ex manifold.
Located in rear of engine under intake manifold , left side of engine
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starter relay would be the starter solenoid and it will be mounted on the fender about one foot from the battery in-line to the starter there is a starter relay on a 95 cavalier it is located on the top of the rad support this is not a ford with a starter solenoide a foot away if you have trouble finding the relay look on the starter and see if there is a ground wire attached to it and if so follow it up to the relay
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On the starter solinoid