Sometimes it's a case of you reap what you sow. Just because you gave birth to her does not mean she automatically have to love and respect you if you have not given that back in the first place. Mothers also seem to have a different attitude and pressure on their daughters then on their sons. Sons also seem to have no problem getting help from mom while daughters like to stand on their own 2 legs and be more independent. It's not hate, just breaking away and becoming an adult. Some mothers don't like it or don't get it because they never had that with their moms or they don't want it to happen. The mother-daughter relationship can be quite complicated and it starts early. Also being an adult and maybe even with a family of your own, it then can be very aggravating to be treated like a child by your mother. Some parents have a hard time to let go or to see how their child has changed. Some Adult children are so afraid of being seen as unable to cope that they deliberately hit out at the one person in their lives that unconditionally should love them, and accept them for what they are. The thing that adult daughters should remember though, that if they in turn have children, they reap what they have sown.