Why do guys show interest and then stop?

Answer 1

Girls will never understand us guysWell there are a variety of reason a man shows intrest then stops. Because I don't know the details of the situation, I'll just answer generally. A few reasons that I can give you are as follows:

1. He may have heard rumors (or thruhs) about you and your sexual history, which may have made him hestiant to persue a relationship with you.

2. He may have just ended another relationship and used you as the 'in between' or 'rebound' girl. It's not fair, necessarily, but many men feel that it will hurt them less if they have someone interested in them to 'fall back on' when they are recovering from a relationship.

3. Fear of rejection. Men face this obstacle as often as women do, and sometimes moreso because of the social pressures put upon them to be the active 'seekers' in the relationship. A lot of women don't realize how often men get rejected in social settings after they've finally mustered up the courage to ask a girl out. And it can still be nerve-wracking after you've been dating. Men have body issues just like women, and may be self-conscious about certain parts of their anatomy, if there is a sexual theme and they shy away, this may be the reason.

4. You may be sending mixed signals. Are you showing interest or are you being brash? Are you talking with him casually or are you flirting? Make sure that you are consistent with the messages you send, both verbally and physicall. I'm not suggesting you jump in the sack with him, but let him know that you're interested (if you are). Don't wait for him to call and ask you out if you'd like to spend time with him. Make sure that if you want to spend time, hang out, go on a date, that you let him know. Guys like a girl with initiative.

I am not sure if this answers your question but I hope it leads you in the right direction.

Also because guys don't have the patience to play the stupid games that girls want to play. The whole "mixed signals" and the "Now I like you, oh but now I don't" that a lot of girls frequently play loses the interest of men very fast. Not that men are purely seeking a quick fix, or don't like a challenge, but if a girl decides to play games, the guy will choose to move on to someone else who will make his time more valuable and less frustrating.