Why do husbands lose interest in their wives?

Answer 1

Women are different. Men are always "ready", while women need everything to be "just right". Of course, when everything is new, romantic and exciting, some women are far more interested. But later, after the excitement wears off, they need the romance for intimacy to be enjoyable. After a relationship has developed, children, work and other responsibilities make it difficult for women to "let go" enough to enjoy intimacy. Sometimes a mini-vacation or romantic evening can help bring the excitement back for a woman. But don't be a klutz and tell her that you're doing the whole romantic thing so that you can get lucky. Just be nice, go to a movie and dinner, maybe a drive. Spend time together and try to avoid the stuff that annoys her. Maybe some flowers or a little gift. Then you have to be ready to NOT have things go the way you are planning. If she still can't get in the mood, you may need to do the same thing a few days later. Treat her special and she will eventually respond. But if you tell her that you're treating her special because you have expectations, you'll just make her angry. Some couples have a regular "date night". That's when the husband and wife go out together, just them, no children, no talking about work or bills or any negative stuff. There should be separate time for that. Also, never argue in bed. If you need to argue about something, go to a different room. There are plenty of ideas for increasing the intimacy of your relationship. If you can't get things working on your own, sometimes a marriage counselor can help. Don't take it personal, occasionally we all need to step back and take a look at our relationship. If we can't see our problems, often a marriage counselor can help us through the problems that are preventing us from enjoying the relationship. Redbeard gave excellent advice, but, I would like to add that hormones can be the big culprit at times as well as medications that have the side effects of lowering the libido (antidepressants are big for this.) Diseases such as Diabetes or heart problems can also lower the libido. Some women while still getting their period can have PMS and trying to have sex at this time is a guy taking their life into their own hands. LOL Also from 35 plus women can go into peri-menopause and later (approx. 50) can go into full menopause (ceasing of periods) and become cranky, depressed, have headaches, aching, bloating, depression and hot flashes just to mention a few symptoms. I agree with what Redbeard says as far as spending some quality time with your girlfriend or wife. Often men can take their girlfriends/wives for granted and sometimes the women can do the same things with the men. Women certainly do like romance and quality time with their partner and it's not all about sex, but having romantic dinners, just going for walks together, discussing your future dreams for the future and have a lot of good belly laughs along the way.

Answer 2

Well, it could be his sex drive is out of whack, he could be depressed about something, he could be impotent, or he could be doing it with someone else and is too tired to do it with you,sorry but that is another option. ==Another possibility== Maybe it's not so much a matter of a man "losing interest in sex" as it is that a man's sexual interests may be changing. Try experimenting with your husband or boyfriend and see if you can recapture his interests with something new and exciting. (Hey guys, the same goes for women, too.) Good luck.

Answer 3

Because sometimes it hurts, most of the time they dont feel like it, because they want more out of sex than just the penetration, because it's an intimate icky act that penetrates their body, or because they had a bad experience with it before and havent gotten over it.

There are also the social ramifications, being called names if anyone found out, what their religion says about it, and also there's that big risk of pregnancy which is earth shattering and life changing (not to mention stds)

...so it's actually Dangerous for a woman to have sex.

Answer 4

One Perspective

Most of the women are very inconclusive in their desires. They like one thing and than when they see another thing, their desire shifts to the other thing. But men are very firm decision makers and they fix on their mind, what they want and what they don't.

Another Perspective

Many women lose their man's attraction when he realizes they are more intelligent and less malleable than the man thought at first. Also, men are often shallow, immature and cannot form long term relationships. Each time a pretty face walks by some men must follow it.

Answer 5

Older women sometimes lose their sex drive because of hormonal changes. Once they go through menopause, they are no longer making as many hormones. There may also be changes to the genitalia, such as dryness. Vaginal dryness can make sex more difficult or painful. Hormone therapy might help restore sex drive and eliminate dryness. If traditional HRT is not enough to increase sex drive, doctors can prescribe low-dose testosterone as well.

Answer 6

Why husbands lose interest in their wives:

• If the wife has let herself go such as physically and does not bother to put on makeup every so often; brush her hair and look reasonably neat.
• A woman who is constantly nagging the minute her husband is around her and never compliments him for anything he does do.
• A woman who spends too much time with her children and seldom gets a babysitter so her and her husband can go out together on the occasional night. There is no excuse not to get a babysitter because if it is about not being able to afford a babysitter then one can trade off with a friend who has children.
• Women who know their libido is low and do not seek help from their doctor. Some women going through perimenopause and menopause can have a very low libido and it is up to her to assure her husband it is not about him, but her hormonal changes and to educate him on the subject.
• Putting down a husband in front of friends or taking 'shots' at him every chance she can.
• Being disinterested in what he has to say and expects him to listen to everything she has to say.
• Then there are simply some men who lose interest in their wives for no reason other than then want to prove to themselves other women are attracted to them.
• There are some men who find they do not enjoy married life and have fallen out of love with their wife.
• There are also some husbands that cannot commit to a very ill wife and forgets the passage in their marriage vows 'until death do us part.'

Answer 7

That women's newfound preference for lack of bathing? Plumbing problems? The man's need for Viagra?