Why do men ordered into DV treatment minimized their abuse while females ordered into DV treatment brag about their abuse of men according to the recent Domestic Violence Conference Los Angeles?

Answer 1

* Men were always brought up to be a good provider for their families; to protect them and never hit a woman. Since it has been discovered in the last five or more years that indeed men can be abused by their wives or girlfriends (physical, verbal or both) there are programs such as DV out there for them now as you know. The focus of abuse has mainly been heard re abused women and not men. Men often fear discussing their abuse with a good friend, family or even a counselor because they feel they will not be believed and who can blame them since most men are much stronger than women. Good men don't hit women. Just like women some men that are abused need to learn the tools of what physical and verbal abuse is and know they do not have to be subjected to this and can either have their partner seek professional help or move on from the relationship. Women are much more talkative than men and find it easier to discuss their abuse and, of course, sometimes there are always some women that want to out do the other with the gruesome details (not down-playing the violence) of their life and sometimes for women talking about it and realizing other women have had the same life of abuse gives them a sense of peace and the strength to go on and thankfully, men are beginning to realize they have the same right to expect this.