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Why do women who've been in abusive relationships themselves choose to be friends with abusive men?
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∙ 16y ago
This sounds like sour grapes about people who have been caught in abusive relationships--like it is their choice. Of course, no one specifically seeks out someone who is abusive.
Actually, so many of the abusive mates are very charming and attractive (make you laugh, have fun, offer nice courtesies) in the beginning, which is so appealing. They just can't keep the facade when things get real, and there is commitment by the other person, so there is less incentive to mind their manners. Looking back, I can see several "what was That?" instances in my relationship.
And that is the issue--we all go back to familiar behaviors unless we have had time out to have the insight to see ourselves as we are and to view our choices with more logic than emotion. A veteran of an abusive relationship needs to take things slow, observe the red flags (ie. did the person's ex leave them suddenly and without explanation? Are they quick to anger? Do they blame you for things you have no control over? etc.), and spend time with the other person in several different circumstances. If you can delay having sex with the new person and mixing those endorphins into the decision making, you will be better off.
A good resource is the book by Patricia Evans--The Verbally Abusive Relationship.
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∙ 16y ago
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∙ 12y agoi no from experince that having an abusive boyfriend isn't easy, sometimes it is because your simply scared to say that you don't want to be with them, that's exactly how i felt. I really did like the boy but i realised when enough was enough and being only 14 at the time i realised that i had to tell someone. I told one of my best friends who really helped and finally we stopped meeting, i did really miss him but i understood at this time it was for the best. a few months later we started meeting again and i told him how i was scared and i didnt want to be any more then friends because last time it ended how it did and he took it on and now were amasing friends, sometimes i just think you need to tell someone how you feel for something to stop.
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Why do some people choose abusive relationships?
because they are in love or scared to tell some one or just think they are goin to change ....but a person that loves you wont abuse you think about it
What will you choose between your friends and girlfriend?
Always choose your friends over a girlfriend or boyfriend because if your girlfriend or boyfriend do not work out you won't have your friends there to support you.... However relationships are equally important. Your girlfriend or boyfriend will make you feel needed and important and special.. In the long run you should not have to choose but if some reason you do. It's your choice :) good luck
What do you do if you like 3 guys that are best friends?
go ahead with them. its ok choose the hottest one ;) You choose the one that makes you smile the most, is there for you for actually YOU and what not. Don't choose the one that just flaunts you off to other people to make themselves feel better about themselves, but for you as well.
Are Female actually causing themselves to be victims of abuse?
Some people are drawn to certain kinds of relationships that do not initially seem abusive but turn into abuse down the line. This is usually because of childhood issues. They do not choose to be abused, they simply choose the wrong partners. No one makes another person abuse them. The abuser always has the option of walking away -- running if necessary. People do not cause their own abuse, and attempting to blame it on the victim instead of the abuser is absolutely unacceptable.
How can you tell if he rilly loves you?
If he has to choose his friends or you he will choose you. I know because I was one of the friends:(.
How does a 10 year old choose her guardian when her mother has died and her father is abusive in India?
Children don't get to choose their guardians. The court will decide.
Can a minor choose their friends?
Certainly, children choose to be friends with some and not others all the time.
DO Cliques affect you in relationships?
Well creating a Clique consists of 3-5 girls in one group. If your only going to choose certain friends, could hurt a relationship with other friends. While being with those friends, they could help you and give you courage for guy things such as asking him out or lip kissing.
What does choose your friends wisely mean?
It means be careful who you are friends with
Is it wrong to choose your girlfriend over your friends?
Depends on what you mean by choose. If you mean not talking or doing anything with your friends, then yes. If you choose to do something with her instead of hanging out with friends maybe every other time or so, then no.
Do two female best friends be together and for get about men and be together for the rest of their lives that way?
Yes, two female best friends can choose to be together and prioritize their friendship over romantic relationships with men. They can choose to live their lives together and focus on their friendship if that brings them fulfillment and happiness. The decision to be together in this way is a personal choice that depends on the individuals involved.
What does choose mean?
it means friends
