Why does a country need etiquette or norm?

Answer 1

Very simply put, etiquette or expected behavioral norms are needed for many reasons, but most all have good intentions behind them. Some examples are these; If you have a computer that you do schoolwork or business correspondence on, or maybe just email, would you want a careless family member, who is known for breaking things easily, but doesn't have money to replace items, going onto your computer without your permission? Or a relative who gossips, to be reading your private emails? Probably not. What if you have a friend who shows up with kids, and then those kids jump on your furniture? Maybe you wouldn't care until one of the kids breaks your dad's favorite chair. Or knocks over a favorite vase, shattering the vase into pieces? Or falls, hits his or her head on a table and is bleeding all over? Wouldn't things have gone more smoothly if the child had not been jumping on the furniture in the first place? Yes. Of course. How about a friend who is playing Video Games or watching a movie with you. Let's say you have a bowl of popcorn or candy. But your friend uses your bathroom and doesn't wash his or her hands afterward. Then your friend reaches into the bowl and grabs some candy or popcorn out of the bowl. Or your friend keeps sneezing or coughing into his or her hands and then reaches into a bowl you are both eating from? How would you feel? I know adults that do these type of things! What if 4 people in all pulled up to a stop sign at a 4-way stop? Generally someone will gesture to someone else to go first, then hopefully all others take turns. Suppose someone doesn't want to follow polite rules of the road, or even the law? You may be at a stop light. The light turns green for you to go. I have had my kids in my car say, "Go! It's green." Not being driver's at the time, but wanting to get home quickly, they did not notice someone was running the red light. Or, someone was in the crosswalk. Just because a driver has a green light, does not guarantee someone else cares about driving rules or laws. Lastly, let's say you are planning a party or a wedding. You send out invitations requesting that people let you know whether or not they will be attending. You need to know that information so that you can have enough food for everyone, have enough drinks, chairs and tables, etc... People don't respond, but show up anyway. Or they respond with, "Thank you! We will be there.", but then they don't show up. Twenty years ago, when a family member of mine got married, they had to keep the guest list low, as one had been in a bad accident. There were many people they wanted to invite, but could not afford to invite them all. The lunch at the reception cost the bride and groom $45.00 for each guest. They got their response cards back, and ordered food for each person. We had 2 empty places at our table. (Another family member had told his wife he didn't want to go, as the waves were perfect for Surfing. She was too embarrassed to attend without him, so neither showed up.) Those two place settings with their name cards at them, were quite obvious when the bride and groom went to each table to thank each person for being a part of their big day. Those empty plates signified $90.00 and 2 other people that could have been invited, but didn't get invited so this cousin and his wife could be there. They were angry. They never invited that cousin and his wife to anything else. To sum this up, though etiquette and expected behavioral norms may vary from place to place, and from situation to situation, but they are important for societies to function smoothly, and help maintain respect shown to others, safety, good hygiene, and respect for oneself. They help maintain a sense of order that helps people get along with others. And... Most have very good reasons behind them!