Why does your child lie so much?

Answer 1

It's become a type of addiction to the reactions that result from it.

A little lessen.

At birth, until age two, the human brain is at the same intellectual level as most upper level mammals, such as dolphins. Some things can be learned, through a high level of repetition, but overall long-term memory is not yet established. Yes, there are children that develop earlier and faster, but their average life span is also much shorter. People like Einstein didn't develop their full intelligence until in his 20s.

At age two, the brain begins developing the ability for long-term memory storage. This is what most parents call the terrible twos, but there is nothing terrible as it shows the wonder of the human brain. It that time when we really separate ourselves from all other mammals that inhabit this planet.

First, you need to understand that the ability for conceptual thought, or the understanding of right from wrong, does not even BEGIN developing until puberty. Until this age, the word "wrong" is jus that, a word with little to no relational meaning. In addition, for ten years from age 2 on, everything is just words and things, action and react.

When you tell a child not to do something, those are just meaningless words because in the child's brain they are not yet connected to a specific action or reaction. Until puberty, something has to be repeated at least six times for it to become a permanent memory. Just as you used repetition in teaching letters and numbers, you use repetition in all aspects of a child's life. Even after puberty, this should continue as that final stage is not completed for another 12 years in girls, and 18 years in boys. Christ was not mature enough to leave home until age 30.

When you want a child to not do something, you determine an action they do not like, such as standing in the corner, than when they do it again, you repeat the same reaction. You want to form a memory in their brain that if the commit a certain action, you are going to reaction with something less pleasant, until that point is reach where the very though of doing it brings up the picture in the mind of your reaction, so they don't do it. If you change your reaction to an action, such as the first time you make them stand in a corner, but the next time they sit in the corner, that's a completely new and different image in their minds, creating a completely new memory path, making your job of stopping their committing the action twice as hard.

Though people have grown to hate the TV Show "Jon & Kate Plus 8", they had it right in their use of discipline. Every action committed on the part of the children that was not proper, the child sat in a corner, and not just any corner. It was a specific location, so that in their minds was pictured the exact same image of that corner in the house. It may take as few as three times, or it may take a dozen times. Remember, their action is also not exactly the same each time.

You tell them not to touch the hot pot on the stove. Now to you, a two quart of hot boiling water is just as dangerous as a two-cup pan of hot boiling water, but to the child it's not. The size and shape are completely different, and without actually experiencing the sensation of something very hot, the word hot means nothing to them.

You know it is because you experienced it at some point, and you now possess the ability to understand what something means, but your child does not and just as your parent had to teach you, so now it's your job to do so. In twenty years, your child will be repeating the process.

Just as it was for a thousand generation past, so it is now, and will be for unknown generations to come. This is a time of great learning for your child, but it's just data. Their world is more the world of the imagination of the mind. Don't try to rush them for it will be over far too quickly. In those ten years, their brain will absorb and store 2.9 Petabytes of data. That's more than the total amount of data be carried on the internet right this moment. You are the source and they are the sponge. Feed that little mind with what it needs to eventually become a contributing member to Our Society, but for right now, don't obsess over the little things, for it will pass, and the day will come when you will miss them.