You told your daughter to go live with her dad after she cused you out and was out of control now she wont even speak to you and he keeps her away from you. It seems like you have no rights anymore?

Answer 1

Don't know how old she is but waiting too long without contact is never good after a fight. We say a lot of wrong things when we are angry and you both did. I don't know if you get along with her dad, but she knows everything that is going on and it shouldn't be two sides so she can choose when one side doesn't suit her because she doesn't want to deal with it.

Somehow you need to go there and say you're sorry you said those words, but you were angry after how she treated you. Her behavior was not acceptable either. Many times the mom is the one we fight with the most because she is always there and we are closest to her, especially as daughters. We trust she would never reject us. If you get to speak to her she might want to come home.

If he keeps you from seeing her you should get the police involved. Just because she's mad does not mean the custody agreement is not valid. Families get mad all the time. Then we make up. She needs to learn that just like she can loose her temper, and you forgive her for that, so can you. And her dad. We all say things we regret. Often kids and teens think parents are superhuman who are in control about everything or SHOULD be. They need to be reminded of that we are all alike.

ANSWER

One of the questions repeated posted on here, and other site, by mothers is whether they have to force a child to visit the father, despite court orders. They do as to do otherwise is teaching the child to dishonor the authority of the court. But, the problem you have is that you sent here without taking the proper legal steps to change the custody, access rights, and child support orders, thus the whole situation has been left up in the air.

These issues need to be addressed, transferring to him the official custody, and transferring to you the access rights and child support obligation. This can be achieved easily through the use of a certified mediator who will produce the agreement for registry with the court.

As for your current access, the police have no authority in this matter, especially as you lack current court orders. If you wish, I can write him about this, as I work with fathers. Click on my name below to access my profile and contact info.