How can you move on after a heart breaking relationship. What are the steps?

Answer 1

First, you have to take time to allow your heart to heal you can't get so wrapped up in that person that you lose who you are. Learn to love yourself again, and if that person doesn't want to then it is their lost. You are a better person. You don't ever want anyone that does not want you back. Time will heal your heart and you will find out in a while that person who broke your heart was not even worth it. Don't sit around the house and get depressed. Depression is easily to come, all you have to do is think about bills and depression will come. But finding joy is hard. Especially when you were in love with that person. Things happen for a reason, trust me I know. But in the end you will win. Continue on with your every day activity, don't let life stop because they person is silly. Love yourself daily. Fix your self up, tell yourself you are a better person now since that person is gone from your life. You should never in life center your world around anyone to that extreme. A man/women doesn't make you, that just enhance to who you are. You have to know who you are as a person. I am a minister trust me when I say it will work out alright. Your heart will hurt for just a little while. Stay busy and active don't sit around thinking about that person all day. This is never an easy question to answer, and the steps may be particular to each individual. As individuals we are all unique having our own set of needs, wants, and desires. Still, I will attempt to give my own personal opinions. Others may add on as they see fit.

I believe the first step is the realization that the relationship is indeed over. A clear understanding of this would be the base foundation for moving ahead. If the door is left partially open, there will always be the possibility of internal and external driving forces interfering with your decision making and strategy.

If the relationship is indeed over, and you are reconciled to this, here are a few hints.

* Understand in life not all relationships work out. It's a fact of life. This should not be viewed as an indication of who you are as a person. We all have our strong points and our weaknesses. Strive to maximize your strengths while minimizing your weaknesses. It's a life long learning process. In other words, keep or increase your sense of self-esteem. * Start developing some goals and objectives for yourself. Develop a passion and create a road-map with short-term goals and objectives leading to your overall goal. This could be in the area of self improvement, physical fitness, education, developing new relationships, new interests etc. Keep a positive outlook! * Do not be afraid of new relationships. By developing new relationships, it will take the edge off the one that did not work out. * Understand that the pain you feel will heal. However, it heals over time. It's not a spontaneous event. Nonetheless it will heal in time. * If others tell you you should not feel the way you do, or cheer up there is always some one who has it worse; don't by into that. What they are doing - although not intentionally - is dismissing your hurt, pain, emotions involved etc. The pain you feel is real and it OK to experience it. From this you will learn and grow. * Never beat yourself up over what has happened. Cut the rope and let it slide. The past is not coming back, take courage and move forward to a positive future. These - I believe - are some things to be cognizant about. I feel your pain. Most of us have gone through this type of roller-coaster ride through life. It's never easy, however you will survive this and be strengthened by it.

Best wishes!!