The first step would be to realize that fantasizing about extramarital sex is not equivalent to an actual sexual affair with someone. The next step would be to discuss honestly the problems the two of you are having. Doing that with professional facilitation may be a good option. While the internet is a wonderful tool it has it's down-side like everything else and porn sites are one of them. Unplug the computer and get rid of it! Then seek counseling. If your mate rejects this idea then it's time to move on.
There is only one sign and that is if he were to agree to go to marriage counseling and keep each appointment with you. It is important that he realizes a marriage counselor is not there to place blame on either spouse, but to give them tools in order for them to communicate better and resolve any problems they have in their marriage.
The short version is...grow up
Pleasuring yourself is never cheating.
Having sex with someone who isn't your spouse (or your hand)
Directly in front of your spouse if you have been caught cheating
* As to how sorry the cheating spouse is depends on the individual who cheated. Some men make a mistake once and feel guilty and heartbroken when they realize how they have hurt their spouse or children; other men feel no remorse for cheating and are just sorry they got caught.
In a No Fault Divorce state it issue is not applicable.
because they dont wanna get caught cheating on u so ha hA
When a spouse breaks that bond of trust it will take several months to possibly a year or more (of good behavior) for that cheating husband to earn the trust back from their spouse. The victim of a cheating spouse should never make it easy for the cheater to come back into their lives and continue on as if nothing has happened, but, they should not harp at the cheating spouse or the relationship would wither away. To err is human and sometimes either men or women make a mistake and cheat, but some never cheat again while others may find themselves cheating over and over again. This is why it is important for the victim of cheating to tell their spouse they will only take them back if they agree to go to marriage counseling where the marriage counselor can give them the tools to correct the weak areas in the marriage. If the cheating spouse refuses, then it is better to walk away from the marriage.
* Why go after the mistress! It should be your mate that you go after as they instigated the affair. You have a choice of splitting up if you are just going together or, if married you can sit down and discuss the problems in your marriage and try to work on a more successful marriage; separate from your spouse or divorce him.
Cheating on a spouse in unacceptable, but it does happen. If a husband continues to cheat then yes, he is a risk taker. Some husbands grow bored with their marriage and are looking for excitement; they want to see if they are still able to attract the opposite sex, yet some men love the chase and the secrecy of cheating. Most men know they will get caught sooner or later, but with some of these cheating husbands it actually gives them a thrill to have a high of being caught.
Yes, cheating on a spouse is considered a violation of the marriage contract and can have legal consequences, such as leading to divorce proceedings.