* Although you are a good friend and it pains you to see your friend in anguish over a lost love it is still not your place to tell her when she should get over the man that left her. Breakups are much like losing a loved one to death. Your friend is going through a grieving process and everyone grieves at their own pace. Grieving is a journey only that person can take and then eventually they will come to terms with it. See the other good things in your friend and go out to a movie, dinner or shop at the mall and try to be patient.
no she isn't being a very good friend
Grieving is a normal process to go through, but some individuals may become reclusive; will not eat well; may not be sleeping well and become very distressed and depressed and they should first have a good physical because stress can cause many health issues and also grief counseling. In fact, most individuals should join a grief counseling group where they can be with others who are also grieving over the loss of a loved one. Hospices; churches; some hospitals provide free counseling for grief. Family and friends should be there to listen; give as much support as possible and not expect too much from the person grieving. Each individual grieves at their own pace and there is no set time when a person has to stop grieving. Just listening or even crying along with them is a good step to support the person who is having difficulty grieving.
It is normal for people to grieve over the loss of anyone they loved and grieving is a process. Some people may grieve for a brief time and then get on with life while others may take months to a couple of years to get over the loss of that person. You are a good friend and the best thing you can do is simply listen or hug your friend if they are crying or distraught. Eventually your friend will get over the loss of their friend and remember the good memories they had together.
Grieving for a loved one who has died is very traumatic and there are different levels of grief one must go through to begin to heal. Crying is a great reliever of stress; pampering yourself such as a leisurely bath; going for a walk in a peaceful place; perhaps sitting in church; working in the garden; praying; talking out loud to the loved one that has passed. Grieving takes time, but, when an individual is ready they will begin to heal and live on in the memory of their loved one and are left with good memories of that loved one.
The body, that is, the part of the brain that is responsible for your emotions, like sadness, requires a grieving period. Each week should be a little less difficult for you, but the grieving process takes around 6 months. So, it is good, normal, and healthy for you to grieve for your friend.
The kind sent from a good friend. One received from a loved one or an old friend you haven't seen in some time.
You can't so all you can do is be there for your friend. It's normal and healthy to go through a grieving time of losing a loved one not only because of death, but the relationship is over. People seem to feel that one only grieves if a loved one has died, but we can grieve over lost love, the loss of a home to fire or flood, etc. You are a good friend and you are doing the best you can. Go out to a funny movie, try to have a few laughs, but if you can't get your friend laughing right away, don't worry. Just listen and be patient. It never lasts forever. Good luck Marcy
Laazrus the brother of Martha was a good man, otherwise Jesus would not have been his friend or loved him.
Breaking up is hard to do and in a way it is like grieving for a loved one who has died because you are no longer together and only left with the good memories you had together. It takes time to heal and the best way to get through these bad times is to go out with friends; choose one good friend to express how you feel; start dating other people and eventually the pain will subside. If your ex is meant to be in your life they will be and if they are not in your life there is a good reason for it ... to set you free to eventually meet that special person that really should be in your life.
Grief is a necessary emotion to deal with the loss of a loved one. However, grief is a different lonely journey and one each individual of that loved one who has died must go through and each person grieves differently. There is no joy in grieving. Grieving often leaves those left behind with a hole in their heart and a feeling that part of them went with their loved one. It is after grief when an individual can smile at photos of that person and remember the good memories they shared with them and that does bring some peace and joy.
I'm sorry to say there isn't much you can do, but be a good friend to them. Many people don't realize that when a couple break-up one of the two goes through a grieving period almost the same as losing a loved one. First they feel stunned and wonder what they did to deserve this, then sad, then anger and after that they get on with their lives. Just listen to your friend, try to get them out with some of your other friends and in time he'll come around and before you know it he'll have another girlfriend.