Why did Heather Mills treat Paul McCartney so bad?

Answer 1

The question is a good one and an accurate answer can inform others about the world of troubled children as they become adults. If you understand how children from a horrible childhood act as adults, the answer is simple. Look up Heather Mills inWikipedia and read about her childhood history of family troubles and the bad habits she picked up along the way (lying is most common among troubled children to protect themselves from bad parents). Then read about Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACoA) from author Woititz, just Google ACoA and you'll find alot. Put the two together and you have an accurate picture of many troubled children who grow up to have very troubled relationships. ACoA's in adult form will 99.9% of the time appear wonderful in public and are often a totally different person in a relationship when under the cover of privacy. I believe Paul McCartney met and married an ACoA in Heather Mills and as is often the case, he had no idea what he married into. Paul likely experienced this revelation this way; for months everything was wonderful and one day he makes a seemingly innocuous comment to Heather, two seconds later the ACoA Heather erupts with a vicious verbal attack against Paul that confuses him greatly, he retreats confused. Later he tries to smooth things out and WHAM! she launches another assault to teach Paul never to hurt her. They both calm down for a bit, days weeks or months later, Paul is still confused while Heather feels under attack and under pressure to teach a lesson to Paul everytime he attacks her. She keeps up her guard 24/7 by always attacking her attacker, even though no actual attacks are presented by Paul. I know it's confusing to the reader that people can be this way, do some more reading and you'll understand that kids being attacked constantly by parents develop a false sense of being attacked as adults. Their defensive abilities that helped them survive childhood becomes a reversal of fortune as an adult and ruins their lives and the lives of those they try to love. Heather Mills is likely two very different personalities, wonderful in public and wonderful in private if you speak to her in the gentlest of tones, otherwise the defensive Heather comes out and attacks without warning. By the way, I'm describing my marriage and I believe I'm describing Paul and Heathers marriage too. My wife's childhood was better than Heathers (though horrible in itself), so I can only imagine the confusion in Paul at all that happened. Bad parents make bad children, who turn into bad adults who make bad children again, and repeat, and repeat.....