There are two people involved in abuse: the abuser and the abused. So either one of these two people can change the dynamic. If you resist the abuser and the result is a fight, you need to fight back if you want to stop the abuse. Talking won't help. Explaining won't help. The only thing that will help is resisting abuse. Yes, of course, that can promote violence. And I will always condemn violence. But these are the risk we sometimes have to take to preserve our dignity. There is more help on my website listed on the Bio Page.
Sounds like a dumb idea. Why antagonize someone who is not capable of controlling their anger to the point of physical violence? You simply need to leave.
Change in abusers is VERY VERY VERY rare, if ever. Forgiveness is a process. The abused must forgive THEMSELVES first & foremost. It's impossible to forgive someone who doesn't own, apologize and change permanently.
Answer Abusive men are like drunks or drug users. Oh baby, please forgive me I really didn't mean it and when the heat dies down off they go again doing everything to spoil the day. Abusive men rarely stop on their own, they need professional help and the sooner the better. Don't believe the lies they tell you. they will never change on their own, they are sick people.
I don't think anybody should be friends with an abusive ex. But you can do what you want i personally wouldn't but it's up to you.
If the guy is an adult chances are he will never change. A person still can love this person because they sometimes think that it there fault when it is not. It gets complicated but it is hard to stop loving someone.
It doesn't matter. If someone was physically abusive toward you it certainly violates trust. You have to ask if you can ever trust again. Will you be waiting for it to happen again? Will you be worried that if you say or do the wrong thing that there will be another incident of abuse? That's no basis for a relationship.
Everybody is capable of lying.
Yes, they are capable, and have already done so in every war ever fought.
Honey for that long, I would of left when he first hit me. No matter what if a guy hits you even if he apoligises, he will keep going.
Never in actual combat.
Sure, he's likely to get worse. Things won't get better unless you make it happen. Either leave him or make him go with you for marriage counseling. See where it goes from there.
yes most of the time when the realise what they have done they will feel terrible