Why did the narcissist choice you as his target?

Answer 1

Narcissists usually will pick someone with a good nature, someone that is kind and empathetic. They also zero in on a person who is needy. Such a person will forgive the narcissist for their abuse and permit the narcissist to manipulate and control them.

Co-dependent individuals are prime meat for a narcissist. Such individuals will stay in an abusive relationship long after anyone else would've left. The co-dependent individual will blame themselves for a lot of the problems in the relationship and feel they cannot survive without the narcissist, allowing the narcissist to extract narcissistic supply from them through abuse and extracting idealisation from them.

Self confident and strong willed individuals are not preferred by narcissists as these type of people will challenge the narcissists bad behaviour and not permit the narcissist to get away with their abusive and exploitative ways.

Further, those with few friends, who come from troubled backgrounds are preferred by narcissists. These individuals are the most vulnerable to narcissistic abuse and manipulation and provide a steady stream of narcissistic supply.

Answer 2

I was ten years younger than him. And naive to lots of things in the world. I had less money and work experience than him and less status. I was sensitive and emotional and from the helping profession, which he seems to like as evidenced by other of his targets. And I was pretty. And impressed by him pretty darn easily...and that's the one that mattered most, of course.

Answer 3

Narcissists will usually be nicer to the person who looks like them the most in their opinion. I have a dad that is a narcissist and he is nicest to me bc I look most like him but my older sister is his least favorite bc she looks most like my mom. he will still beat me and he's even bruised me before. any of you that have a parent that is a narcissist, I'm praying for you.