It is not poor etiquette to invite the same relatives and friends you had at your first wedding. Many people are married a second time.
* It is wise not to invite 'some' subordinates' lest you hurt others feelings. If you have close friends that are your subordinates then you can invite them to the wedding.
Do you have to? No Should you? If you consider them a friend, yes. If you don't consider them a friend? No. Common courtesy would be to invite them if you went to theirs.
Often the wedding planner is not invited to the rehearsal dinner, but if the couple want to invite the wedding planner they should also invite his or her's spouse.
If you don't want to invite your parents to a wedding don't tell them about the wedding in the first place.
No your second wedding should not e the same as your first wedding. Since you have experienced what your first wedding feels like then your second wedding should be more calm, less hectic, and more enjoyable and soothing. The second wedding should not be as long as the first and there should not be that much intricate design but dont think of the second wedding as just a party with a gathering of people.
On a general basis no, you do not invite out of town guests to a wedding shower if they live a fair ways away because it is just a half day event. They will bring you their wedding gift for you and your husband.
I want to invite you out for a drink. Were you invited to the wedding?
It's not in most cases. Destination weddings may be an exception, but to invite someone to your shower and not your wedding is a big no no.
No, it's rude to invite a guest to the Engagement Party when you have no intention of asking them to the wedding. If the guest has a reason they can't make the wedding then it's just fine to invite them to the Engagement Party.
No. You can invite or refuse to invite anyone you wish.
You are cordially invited to attend my wedding.
With difficulty.