You value all of the items and split the value, once the debts of the deceased are resolved. If there are items that they are arguing over, they should be sold and the money divided.
Its common-place for parents to do so with their children.
Absolutely! Some parents don't trust anyone but themselves to take care of their children, no matter what!
The children were taught to be more independent, and to not trust anyone completely
Yes. There is no logical reason to hide anyone's orientation.
There has been no study performed that indicates that heterosexual or otherwise "traditional" parents have better success with their children than anyone else.
This is such a personal question, I doubt anyone outside of his family and doctor know the answer to this.
The estate of the deceased is...of course that may essentially be simply a reduction of what the children would get. But the tax does not go away..the property owes it and if it must be sold to collect it, by the estate (or the tax jurisdcition), it has to be, before clear title can go to anyone else.
Parents affect the life of a child the most. The parents affect a child by the way they treat them, love them, and how they spend their time with them. Children look to their parents before anyone else.
some parents want their children to be free spirited, and let their children discover their individiuality
Yes. The children's loving gay fathers care about them very much. Gay men work very hard to adopt children, and prove to be excellent parents.
Anyone. That is, anyone who can own property.
The testator can will property to anyone they wish. There is no requirement that their family get the assets.