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If one is horrified because he just realized he was a narcissist does this contradict his own verdict of being a narcissist?
If one has narcissistic tendencies and characteristics then later in life when those are totally entrenched in one's character, even with self knowledge, my psychiatrist informs me that it is impossible to change them. She says that one has to learn strategies to deal with them. Surely, if one of the characteristics of a narcissist is to have a 'false self' then one is only creating a further 'false self' albeit with hindsight and awareness. Awareness of narcissistic characteristics is terrifying, and confusing, and I would question anyone that has not queried their own motives, or realised that they behave differently from others, at some point in their lives. Sometimes I feel that self knowledge is not always a good thing.
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How can one save an inverted narcissist from the wrath of a covert narcissist?
The question is ... why bother trying? People are held responsible for their own actions and I wouldn't touch this one with a 10 foot pole. Don't bother trying because you won't get through to either of them. Sorry Marcy
How do you manipulate a narcissist?
You can try but you won't have a life ,because everything you do you will have to think ahead ,is tirening,unatural and senseless because no matter what you do will be wrong in his eyes...is frustating is like seeing an apple climbing to a tree instaead of falling from it.....i spent 2 months with one malignante narcissist and i was devasted,sickand tired,thank God i had my own home to go back to...
Can a narcissist love his spouse or only be obsessed?
Narcissists "love" their spouses or other significant othersas long as they continue to reliably provide them with Narcissistic Supply (in one word, with attention). Inevitably, they regard others as mere "sources", objects, or functions. Lacking empathy and emotional maturity, the narcissist's love is pathological. But the precise locus of the pathology depends on the narcissist's stability or instability in different parts of his life.More inputWe are, therefore, faced with two pathological forms of narcissistic "love".One type of narcissist "loves" others as one would attach to objects. He "loves" his spouse, for instance, simply because she exists and is available to provide him with Narcissistic Supply. He "loves" his children because they are part of his self-image as a successful husband and father. He "loves" his "friends" because and only as long as he can exploit them. Such a narcissist reacts with alarm and rage to any sign of independence and autonomy in his "charges". He tries to "freeze" everyone around him in their "allocated" positions and "assigned roles". His world is rigid and immovable, predictable and static, fully under his control. He punishes for "transgressions" against this ordained order. He thus stifles life as a dynamic process of compromising and growing ? rendering it instead a mere theatre, a tableau vivant.The other type of narcissist abhors monotony and constancy, equating them, in his mind, with death. He seeks upheaval, drama, and change ? but only when they conform to his plans, designs, and views of the world and of himself. Thus, he does not encourage growth in his nearest and dearest. By monopolizing their lives, he, like the other kind of narcissist, also reduces them to mere objects, props in the exciting drama of his life.This narcissist likewise rages at any sign of rebellion and disagreement. But, as opposed to the first sub-species, he seeks to animate others with his demented energy, grandiose plans, and megalomaniacal self-perception. An adrenaline junkie, his world is a whirlwind of comings and goings, reunions and separations, loves and hates, vocations adopted and discarded, schemes erected and dismantled, enemies turned friends and vice versa. His Universe is equally a theatre, but a more ferocious and chaotic one.Where is love in all this? Where is the commitment to the loved one's welfare, the discipline, the extension of oneself to incorporate the beloved, the mutual growth? Nowhere to be seen. The narcissist's "love" is hate and fear disguised fear of losing control and hatred of the very people his precariously balanced personality so depends on. The narcissist is egotistically committed only to his own well-being. To him, the objects of his "love" are interchangeable and inferior.He idealizes his nearest and dearest not because he is smitten by emotion ? but because he needs to captivate them and to convince himself that they are worthy Sources of Supply, despite their flaws and mediocrity. Once he deems them useless, he discards and devalues them similarly cold-bloodedly. A predator, always on the lookout, he debases the coin of "love" as he corrupts everything else in himself and around him.More inputI think everyone have 2 components in them... the narcissism and the love... Me too... When we broke up and she went back to her bf... I cried then felt immense rage, but then...after a couple weeks, when it subsided, I realised that i loved her. Yes i did love her. There was always a part of me who wanted to call her and get back with her... telling her what she wanted to hear... that i love her... but every time it got blocked by the narcissism. I got very close... but it was always blocked. I did not realise only afterwards... Something was blocking me from expressing my emotions...More inputA narcissist is human and, like most of us, will want love in a natural way. Sometimes that part will be heard and felt by a person who is a narcissist. However, it will often be repressed by fear or warped logic.
How is it possible that people close to the narcissist such as his family and exes and friends call him immature but have absolutely no idea he is a narcissist or just how serious it is?
== == Because they don't think the others are right. He has a defense mechanism in which he will invalidate what others are saying about him. In his mind, he is "the saint" and the others are just poor, misled followers who haven't realized just how great he is. Hi there, Id say his friends and family or anyone for that matter - Not even himself would admit he has a problem. Simply because to him its EVERYBODY else. Family and friends may think he is immature and leave it at at, maybe with the hope he will change... They never do! My N's family would say "he's just immature in some ways" and they had no idea how cruel of a person he was and even went as far as to say he wasn't capable of that, it's not who he is. It most certainly was who he is. I think a lot of narcissist's don't come out unless they can. He reserves the treatment and can show his true colours with you. They struggle to keep the facade going so they have to act normal to some people. They get there fix usually in so called intimate relationships. He is getting his narcassisitic needs met with you therefore he doesnt have to pull alot of his games on others as much.Plus he probably lies alot and tells others you have the problem. My N's father explains that she lives in just one dimension - her own. Both parents have volunteered on their own to say she is a spoiled brat and they realize she has a problem, and they are terribly sorry for the way she has treated not only me but others, including themselves. However they have never come out and admitted that she may be a narcissist. I don't talk to them about her unskillful approach to interpersonal relationships. They come to me to "check in" but I feel it is much better to leave her friends and family out of such a discussion.
How do you make a relationship with a narcissist successful?
You leave it before your dignity and self esteem are destroyed. That's the closest thing to success you will ever achieve in a "relationship" with a narcissist. ADDENDUM: When you give into his EVERY whim, be prepared to be a slave for him, agree with EVERYTHING he says/does even if he is wrong, keep the supply going full throttle don't request intimacy or question why you're not receiving any, the relationship will be ONE SIDED, do not EXPECT anything in return, NOTHING, be prepared to become an EMPTY shell of a human being...
Why is narcissist happy to be seen with older bigger women?
Because older person will enhance narcissist's youth and bigger person will enhance nacssist's slimness.
Why does a narcissist lie?
Because of their disorder. They lie about everything. EVERYTHING. Run!
What will Narcissist boyfriend do if you cheat on him because of neglect?
leave and/or abuse you and blame you.
Do narcissist always ruin relationships?
Eventually because they are in love with themselves.
Why is marijuana a problem?
Because Federal and state laws contradict each other.
How would a refugee feel like?
i think they would feel horrified and afraid because they are lonely and they are hopeless.
Why would a narcissist always say how similar you and she are and how you guys are better than everyone else but then subtly insult you when you have something she wants?
because narcissist are jerks plain and simple.
Why the state system can't contradict the federal system?
State law cannot contradict federal law because the Constitution states that federal law has power over state law.
Your narcissist always ignores you right after sex why does he do that?
Because he's a narcissist. It's what he does. Likes himself... Also, he may be a tad too busy imagining how great he looked when he orgasmed...
Why were German representatives at Versailles horrified?
because the treaty of Versailles forced Germany to assume full blame for the war.
Is Ozzy Osbourne brain damaged?
Yeah he is because he watched Emilie Heskey play football and was horrified by the sight
Why do narcissist men not show intimacy to there mate only with material things?
Because they are narcissistic.
