How does an older gay man desiring a partner find one?

Answer 1

It can be very difficult. Depending on the ages (yours/his), life experiences, education levels, physical needs and abilities, etc; all can determine the outcome. If one potential partner is older it's may be normal to expect a mismatch in physical abilities and physical health issues. Which of the two is most likely to die first is a consideration. In such a match-up also expect a gap in interest levels. Such relationships with an age discrepancy of much magitude can work but are statistically relatively small. I suppose it depends on how much overall difference exists. I've found that some younger guys who desire an older partner may find the older more desirable due to his overall affluence; money, social prestige, intellectual abilities, spiritual values, etc. The older may in turn view the younger as an equal but also as a sexual turn-on. "Beauty IS in the eye of the beholder", however, for BOTH PARTIES. These aren't the only reasons for such an alliance. The elder of the two may be a father replacement,...a parental male image perhaps when the natural dad is or was distant. He might also represent a tutor, a mentor or an emotionally mature man in life.

In fact there may be NO age difference no matter the gay culture or subculture.

Look for a host of operational factors. Heterosexual coupling will include most if not all of the above.