Do abusive men tell their wives to leave and then ignore them?

Answer 1

The dissolution of the abuser's marriage or other meaningful (romantic, business, or other) relationships constitutes a major life crisis and a scathing narcissistic injury. To soothe and salve the pain of disillusionment, he administers to his aching soul a mixture of lies, distortions, half-truths and outlandish interpretations of events around him.

Yes, but try leaving! This is a game, a ploy. A woman can't win. He will have already made the woman think she is ugly, of no use, a bad wife and mother, no one likes her, she can't keep a job, does a lousy job of housework and cooking, etc. By now the woman is so far down the tubes she actually will believe she can't cope in the outside world. Abuse is all about control. If you left he may like it, but don't be surprised if he comes after you.

Believe it or not some abusive men know exactly what they are doing and actually hate themselves for it, but can't stop. It's usually a learned behavior from their own parents or whoever raised them.

Ignoring an abused wife keeps the wife on her toes and she feels her heart beating faster and is walking around of egg shells. She becomes absolutely submissive to his every whim and that is not what he wants! These men like scrappers, but of course a woman is really no match for a man in strength. If you are abused please seek help by an "Abused Women's Center." They will protect you!