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Do adult children of narcissists usually contact their abusive parents after being abandoned?
Children from Narcissistic families are no different than any other children who have been abandoned. As the child grows up and is old enough to trace their parents some do, while others are angry or quite comfortable where they are. However, if possible it is a good idea to locate your biological parents if for any other purpose, but to get a medical history from them so you can use this info in your future. Depending on the circumstances and if you know where your parents are and if you know your family doctor that also treats your parents you may beable to get a court order and get their medical history this way.
Please don't blame yourself for being abandoned. Many parents or even one parents will live a life of remembering what they have done. As we grow older we are left with only memories and some come back to haunt you.
Good luck Marcy
I only WISH my mother had abandoned me. However, she needs to have me in her life to further validate her reason for being. By having me, but not where she wants me, she can mesmerize her audience with tales of what a wonderful, giving mother she was, and just look -- look! -- how she's being treated.
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I think a big portion is to recognize that the child is separate from you as a human being and you did not, by some parenting event, cause them to be this way. Don't lay guilt… and shame at your door. Then, you set boundaries for contact (perhaps short time, away from your home, etc.) to keep you safe.
Yes, they do it mentally and sometimes physically. They are careless and non-loving.
Have any other adult children of narcissists had the experience of becoming the main focus of abuse when the non-narcissist parent dies and been able to recover fully?
The emotional abuse intensifies. It is extremely difficult emotionally but you have to disengage, back off and, in my case, I have no other choice but to avoid contact in ord…er to maintain sanity and emotional health.,
Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Psychopathy can be -- and often are -- components of child abuse. They are both clinically-defined conditions with certain criteria that …must be met in order for a diagnosis to be made.
They always emotionally abuse them, because narcissists lack empathy. Some physically abuse. It depends on the specific case.
Yes. They should have the will drafted by an attorney who specializes in probate and is familiar with state laws. A testator who wants to disinherit adult children must do it …properly for the will to be effective.
I do not think they do. They lack the ability to acceot that they are anything but right. My narcissistic ex-husband abused alcohol. Being a psychologist he came up with all… sorts of intellectual theories to support his argument that he did not have a problem with alcohol. I believed him at the time as he had and still has a good job. Once you leave a narcissistic relationship you begin to unravel fact from fiction. FACT! Someone who drinks 20 units of alcohol every day has a problem!
Either because the parents do not afford to keep a child or because they think they did a mistake and they do not want the child. But that is not well done. They should not pl…ay with the life of an innocent kid! Think a lot first!
If the child who was abused by their parent wants to retain a relationship with them, it is their choice but I wouldn't as you never know what they'll do to you next. I would …just consider that family member to be a non-entity.
It all depends on the case. It can happen if you have enoughevidence and a good lawyer.
If you try finding an answer to this question you are already a step ahead. It just takes a while to understand and accept that your parents are humans in the first place an…d they do have to take care of a life of their own. If you have been always bothered by this- Id say my mom e.g. Just circles around herself and this can be a whole lot annoying and hurtful in your younger years- you got the privilege to understand the pain and act differently on your own kids later. Then again I always prefered parents who take care of themselves and do not drown in their worries of my sister and me- you learn to grow fastly- go and turn your weekness into strength.- you'll chose the best thing to do. Parents will stay parents- who would have known and we can be glad we know where we came from- but their not the ones who (should) decide where you head to!! Having said this I hope it answered your question
So all parents are abusive to their kids apart from teen parents? No that is not true. Some parents have serious issues and that include teen parents as well but there's hel…p to get. The majority of parents are not abusive.
Can adult children be responsible for burial or paying debt of a deceased parent if said parent abandoned them as a young child and there has been no contact for more than 20 years?
Children are never responsible for their parents debt, unless they co-signed for the debt. Those bills are the responsibility of the estate. The executor will pay them or info…rm the debtors of the lack of assets.
being forever alone... hold on there"s others too..the parent is more likely to be scammed or to suffer adult abuse, depression, suicidiality and if the parent has any underly…ing health issues those could become untreated as there is no one to watch over them...to just name a few
Well.. figure out which aspects of that fact is actually affecting you. Lack of attention? Inequality in the relationship? Cutting down or helping up? Look at it like a home…work assignment if you have to. Then go talk to them.