Pretty much - they need a worshipper & a scapegoat. Pathetic how they can't be alone so STAY AWAY from them!
Even after you have had time to heal from a bad relationship, you still remember that a relationship might work out badly, and this makes you more cautious about starting a new one.
Maybe the person that is a narcissist was trying to hide it.
You can get over a relationship it takes time. Try and keep yourself busy and surround yourself with friends and family. In time your broken heart will heal.
Please let me apologize in advance for my sarcasm, but I wish this were always the case! If all the narcissists paired up, then they would leave all us normal folks alone... Seriously, I did read somewhere (in Sam Vaknin's site?) that there are two particular "types" of narcissists may do well for a time...Was it an inverted narcissist he was refering to? I don't quite remember.(Google: "inverted narcissist maybe?) I also read that there are folks out there that actually like being in a relationship with a narcissist!
To heal a stone bruise, you need to stay off of it. Using ice and heat will help but ultimately it will just take time to heal it.
the radius is larger so would need more time to heal.
Probably not, they would fight over mirror time. ;)
You should do some serious self analysis to determine why you would try to have an intimate relationship with a person you have described as a narcissist. Hopefully you will eventually decide that you are wasting your time and should move on with your life and find a mate who is capable of caring for and about you as much as you do about him.
It will be hard to move on after a 33 year relationship. It will take time to heal. Surround yourself with those you love and positive people to make it easier.
The narcissist only wanted needed you to supply their need at that time. Now they have the contract job they don't have a need for you until you have something else that they want that is when they will need you again. If you don't have anything they want to nourish their narcissist supply the have no problem writing you off and forgetting that you ever existed. They have no empathy RUN do not stay in contact with them they will destroy you.
You do NOTHING. It is her life, her decision and her relationship. Do not interfere or put any pressure on her or she will hold it against you in the future. If she really does want you, then she knows what she has to do so until that time comes and she has had suffiecnt time to heal from that relationship you need to back off completely.