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Relationships include parent/child, sibling/sibling, friendship, dating, marriage, and lots of others. They can be great, but many times they are problematic and can be unhappy or even abusive. This category is for questions about relationships, both good and bad.
I think that both boys and girls have hard things to deal with. No one can really judge who has it harder. Everyone has difficulties in life. One person's difficulty maybe be seen as a piece of cake by someone else. Yeah, girls have periods, they have to go through pregnancy and giving birth, etc. b…
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Be supportive of your mom and help her out. I thought that pregnancy was easy before I became pregnant myself. I am almost 6 1/2 months now, and I have had so many problems from morning sickness (feeling like you are going to throw up all day 24 hours a day/ seven days a week and actually throwing u…
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Condoms and spermicide will prevent pregnancy if used before sex. If you are already pregnant, there is nothing in a store to terminate it in the US. If you have had unprotected sex within the past five days, you can get emergency contraception over the counter in the store to reduce the risk of…
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The fact that you have not gotten your wife or gilfriend pregnant doesn't mean that you can't have kids or that your sperm is not strong enough.Believe me when I tell you this, because my husband and I tried for about 7 years to get pregnant. We were both tested and nothing was wrong with either of …
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: My theory on it is at fourteen you are not capable of being a fit mother. And it's unfair to give that burden to your parents who will undoubtedly have to support you even though I'm sure you weren't raised to make a mistake such as this. There are thousands of people who want children and can't h…
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%REPLIES% Answer 1st things 1st...As soon as the baby is born do a DNA test. Answer Well, how dedicated are you to this girl? do you forsee spending your life with her? If so, be accepting, and take the child in as your own. If not, try to help your GF, but don't worry about the baby if y…
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No, Not unless there is harm being done to the child as a result of living with the person. The dad can take you to court all he wants to anout anything that's his right but that don't mean the judge will grant anything, He would have to get proof of the kids being in harms way.   In Oklaho…
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Yes. I doubt that any judge of Family Court would buy the "only once" defense. All of the judges, social workers, etc. I have encountered stick to the "Past behavior is a true indicator of future behavior" rule.
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If the child feels uncomfortable having limited privacy, then the issue should be discussed. If not, there seems to be no reason why it is not workable.
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Unless their is custody involved the girl's father is able to take her and not give her back. If their is custody involved and he takes the girl and won't give her back then that would be considered kidnapping.
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I disagree with "waiting until you're 18" There is a lot to be learned about love and relationships, and you know yourself better than anyone else and should be able to make those decisions and whatever age hey come along, I do however agree with asking mom or dad for advice because most of the time…
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Bad? Not necessarily. But immature, untrustworthy, undependable and troubled - yes. Walk away. Run.   Why do you have a boyfriend who's already a loser in the first place? Get your act together, educate yourself, and find your self worth, then hopefully you'll find a guy who isn't such a lose…
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dear friend,You have the answer to your question. FIrst do a self analysis 1) How long have you known this boy friend? 2) How old are you and how old is he ? 3) IS it a strong relationship or a just a physical attraction.IF your relationship is pretty strong then and you both understand each other w…
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u should just tell her that you really love the guy and want him to be part of your life and your babys life you don't want the babi to grow up without a father my moms was the same way but now shes gotten used to the idea! good luck! Tiffany k.(garcia) If I were you then I would talk to your mom a…
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But I will say this, I certainly hope you're not considering getting pregnant with the hope that you will then be able to get married. Marriage and having children is not 'kiddie play'. It's very serious business. It requires maturity, responsibility, and commitment (a *life time* of it). Anyone who…
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Thank you to all the helpful and generous people who shared their personal experience on this page. Your input is invaluable to others who have been diagnosed with ADHD/ADD and the people who share their lives. It is also extremely helpful and full of information for anyone who suspects they may hav…
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If you have ADD, you can't concentrate on the subject long enough to explain it to anyone.   LOL, that was just too funny. Hey, how many ADD people does it take to change a light bulb?I don't know, how many?Let's go ride our bikes!Anyway, the book You Mean I'm not Lazy, Stupid, or Crazy? expl…
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ADD DiagnosisGo to a psychologist, and have him tell the docter his problems. It sounds like he is really bad. but medication, is best for people who have some sober self control. it helps them be more like other people, but if you cant sit still, and see who you are, and what your doing, then you h…
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Hi Eleana,Yes. Be it any form of exercise, not just crunches alone. Crunches too help in a way. In general, exercise promotes good blood circulation in the body and renders energy increasing potency in daily activities including sexual intercouse. Feel free to get back to me at the above mail ID jus…
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Try talking to the property owner and if this doesn't yield immediate results check your city ordinances to see if light trespass is covered. You will find most city ordinances explicitly prohibit light trespass onto adjoining properties.
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Try Classmates.com. Of course, the person that you are looking for must actually be registered and many people are already registered. You can set up your registration for free and then search all you need to. Or you can just go online and search the person but that might cost money. Try Reunion dot…
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%DETAILS% You may have other rights. Call a local attorney for state specific advice.ftc.govĀ§ 806. Harassment or abuse [15 USC 1692d] A debt collector may not engage in any conduct the natural consequence of which is to harass, oppress, or abuse any person in connection with the collection of …
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You would go find something else to do and stay away from this subject. If you give folks enough rope they will hand themselves.   Man......are you for real?Jealousy gets you nowhere. As you stated....EX-WIFE!!!!! Get a clue and leave them alone. Revenge is NOT a good thing. Move on and get a…
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No,Working Spouse Rule If both you and your spouse work for Vought Aircraft, one of you can opt out of medical and dental coverage and the other spouse can cover both of you. Or, each spouse can elect separate coverage. However, only one of you can cover your eligible dependents for medical and dent…
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Are they still married? Separated? Divorced? If nothing else, the husband should get a notice from the Insurance Company about his COBRA rights.What does the divorce decree say?Once the divorce is final, the Insurance Company wouldn't consider the x-husband eligible anyway.
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Contact the INS. They would be able to help you.   The person cannot just be "sent back" simply because the US citizen has changed his or her mind about the marriage. If the person has the conditional green card, the US citizen can refuse to file the joint petition to remove the conditions, b…
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1. Move back to Mexico. if you voluntarily self-deport, the 3 and 10 year time bars do not apply. 2. Apply for a for a legal immigration visa at the US Embassy. There are many categories under which you can apply. It helps if you are educated and/or have a valuable skill. Another method is to appl…
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Its really hard to tell because you need solid evidence. Usually if it feels that way deep down in your gut, That's what it is. But you shouldn't act on in until you know for sure. ANSWER: Jealousy can't be the factor her. If you think your husband or wife is been cheating on you, it will be pain, …
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Why Men CheatFirst of all, men don't always cheat, but when they do, here are some possible reasons:They are not ready to have commitments.They no longer feel satisfied/stimulated in their current relationship and are too cowardly to end the relationship.They are concerned aobut their financial/livi…
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Get a new friend. I know it's hard, but she will use everything she knows against you to get to him. Be polite but to the point. The next time she makes an inappropriate comment to your husband, smile sweetly and say, "It's too bad you have to practice flirting with Mike because you can't find a …
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Signs from the car:They let you do the talking most of the time. They are using more gas.The mileage in their car is too high. Check the mileage for them to and from work. Is there a lot of unexplained mileage?They want you to wait while they clean out their car before you get in it.There are tw…
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ANSWER Well, it's a very specific situation, but generally speaking, a man/woman who cheated on their partner or use to do that regularly CAN change their ways after meeting their true love. I have a friend who used to cheat on her boyfriends regularly (kind of shocked me when she told me about it)…
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In short it is a relationship term - usually after 7 years people tend to re-evaluate their relationship. There might be evidence that it is now much shorter but the original number 7 came from a time period where the average marriage only lasted 7 years. There is also speculation that this might b…
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After i and my lover spent about 6 years together, my boyfriend told me that we can not be together. and already We were making ready ourselves to get married this year and I was very happy and absolutely ready to marry him. this breakup started when he went a little far from the city where I live, …
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No dwelling on the past. Old news! Today is a new day. No, you should not tell someone that you were a mistress to their partner.ANSWER: I'm not sure if this relationship is over because of the word " were", don't get me wrong, in my opinion only 2 way why you want to tell to a complete stranger, w…
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No, talk to your own spouse follow the "chain of command" Think about it, are you wanting to mend fences or ruin trust irrevocably? What good would come of it? Yes you should, it will, if nothing else - put an end to it. You maybe surprised at what information his wife may have. I had to do that…
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You should confront him about it and make sure your assumption is true. If it is true then you may want to leave him since they usually say that "once a cheater is always a cheater." If you give him a second chance, he may just cheat on you again and then you end up by getting hurt even more.AND IF …
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: he always was and always will be a cheater beware of the diseases he will bring home no charge. I can't think of any acceptable situation for someone to cheat on their spouse. "Too eager and forward" Huh? It is irrelevant if the woman was totally naked and climbing all over him. He had a choice a…
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Probably because you want a husband, not a father, and from your question I assume he's not so great in that category. You should work on improving this relationship rather than looking outside for whatever is missing.   He maybe a good guy, a great father, but obviously he is missing somethi…
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You tell us..do u still love him? i however don't think so..if u did u would have controlled yourself and acted like an adult. By cheating on him you proved that you have zero respect for him and that your either still in love with your ex (if that) or u want to have 2 much fun to be married to one …
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If you both want to save the marriage, your wife needs to admit to the affair and end it as of this moment. She needs to have no contact with the man she was having the affair with, even if this means quitting a job. She needs to explain why she had the affair--what were the issues she had in your …
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Both men and women are attracted to other people and will look if they notice a beautiful person. Being involved with another person romantically does not change how beautiful other people are; there are simply customs in place in society that limit the amount of interaction romantically involved pe…
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First, I believe that your definition of love is confused. A person who really loves another person does not hurt them. The men that are cheating probably do not know how to love anyone but themselves. I would venture to say that they lust instead of love.As far as hurting you ,they are also hurting…
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%REPLIES% Answer Well, heres an Idea! QUIT BEING THE OTHER WOMEN OR MAN!! Why would you still be doing things with him? If you guys get back together I 100% know he will cheat on you! Leave him in the past, and go on! Think about his wife, have you thought about what you would feel like if you …
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A man who cheats and infects his spouse with a potentially fatal disease is an animal of the most careless and cruel nature. The mere thought of it sickens me. Leave this louse if you can or at the very least, tell him to keep his slimy, disease ridden paws off of you! I agree, if a spouse cheat…
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Answer more than likely hes chaeting on you. hes just trying to buy your love and buy himself time away from you. he wants you around so he buys you things, but he says he needs space b/c he wants to go out and do whatever he wants. he wants his cake and he wants to eat it too. don't let him he i…
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Love is not fair and believe it or not but people can love more than one person.
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ABSOLUTELY!!! Take it from the sister of a woman who did it constantly. There's nothing more humiliating and convicting to a cheating woman than having this disgusting fantasy she's living become exposed. Right now she's comfortable because the situation is still somewhat in her control. Once the ot…
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Dee - do you mean separated as in 1) broke up or just 2) not in the same location? If number 1, then he wasn't cheating. If number 2, then, no, your're not being unreasonable.   I've been there. Separated or together it doesn't matter. He has no business hanging out with ex-lovers no matter…
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%REPLIES% Answer No, it's not worth the effort to follow your husband to his mistress' home. It serves no purpose. Here's the scenerio: You follow him, you knock on her door, she answers it and there you are face-to-face with her. 9 chances out of 10 your husband will be furious you are t…
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Depression is a tough part of life to be in and before you ever started dating someone else you should have sat down (perhaps in a restaurant) and quietly told your boyfriend you needed to have a break for a bit and not rushed out and started dating too quickly. The last thing this poor guy needs is…
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This is such a hard one to deal with.Most of us can be quite attracted to another person of the opposite sex when married. If smart, just dream about it (your secret) and remain loyal to your spouse if you still love them. Marriage can get mundane, so instead of looking for others, take that energy …
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No, you would not cheat and lye to them. There obvioiusly is no LOVE if your spouse is continually doing this. Why would you put up with this kind of behavior? What are you waiting for. If it is the number 36 that keeps holding you back, it's only a number. There is a whole wonderful life out there,…
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I don't think you should confront her when she is with the man - I think you should confront her when she is at home and there is privacy and calmness. If you confront her when she is with him, emotions could highly escalate and cause something bad to happen.   She's a big girl and knows she …
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Sounds like your friend has a pretty bad relationship with her husband and may be staying with him for family or lifestyle reasons. Maybe she needs to know the truth to help her confront her own life and her own happiness. What about a letter, anonymous. This way she won't feel awkward with you. &n…
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You don't know unless you have some actual proof, but if you suspect something fishy is going on...it probably is. Is he Cheating or Am I crazy: There will be signs such as: - he acts differently - does not tell you he loves you anymore - does not kiss or hug you goodbye - if he does kiss you it i…
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Which woman REALLY makes you feel better about everything. Which woman will see you through anything, the good, the bad, and the ugly? Which woman makes you feel like you are the only man in the world when she's with you, it's about you and not her? Who makes you feel good about being you? Good Luck…
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%FOLLOWUPS% Your going to have to elaborate a little more for some one to answer this question. What do you mean?
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Please be as sure as possible he even is cheating. If he's late from work and you think he's cheating, you may not be right. If he is, the quickest method is hiring a detective. It can be hard to find a good one and it can be expensive. You pretty much have to get the goods on him if you are dealin…
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A relationship that starts with lies and deceit is a house of cards from the beginning. I do not believe so because can you really ever trust that person?   if there is a real connection and love most relationships could last no matter how it started   Please see my response to "Has…
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Absoulutely, you may think he does not know, but trust me he does, even if he just thinks 'somethings not been right', he knows, if you suddenly now give him some attention ect again he will pick up on that and although he will be happy about the attention he will realise that there has been another…
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%REPLIES% Answer Once you might forgive your husband for cheating, but 2 - 3 - 4 times ... kick him out! You deserve better! When you keep taking him back in he has absolutely no respect for you and certainly no respect for himself. He has it good! He knows he can have the fine life and sti…
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No! Put yourself in her place. What if a boss asked you and a female coworker to work late and of course you had to comply. Simply because she is female and you have to work late does that mean your wife should be sure you are cheating?On the other hand, if she is working too many hours of over-time…
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Time will tell. If he makes a clean break with his wife and treats her with respect and tells her the truth, then MAYBE he could be your soul mate. But only if he chooses you. If he stays with the comfort of the familiar life with his wife, he is not your soul mate. keep on looking and good luck. yo…
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Just a friend? How naive does he think you are. Where is the respect the trust? It's gone correct? If there is any hope for this marriage, you BOTH need to seek out a GOOD marriage Councillor, Now. You need to start helping yourself repair any damage this has done inside of you, to salvage your own …
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I believe that relationship problems can almost always be solved. The problem is with your attitude. It's not something external to you.So, you could have saved your marriage, if you wanted to. If you want to hold on to your new relationship you'll be able to do that too. But if you are searching fo…
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There is no place in the US (or North America) that you can get married without parental consent at an age younger than 18. And its for a reason. way too young and naive at that age no matter how sure you "KNOW" you are. The above is incorrect. Most of the states allow the two to go before a ju…
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I'm assuming that you can if you have your parent's consent, and full permission to do so. However, if you do not get your parent's permission, and you move in with him anyways, or continue to date him.... whatever the circumstances maybe, he can get into some trouble, because you are 16, and he is …
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Every state in the U.S. requires that a person be 18 in order to get married without parental consent, except for Mississippi (21) and Nebraska (19).Wait the extra year until you're 18.
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Try to avoid them as much as possible but when you do run into them be polite and treat them with respect. Good luck! ANSWER You CAN'T avoid difficult people because they seek out situations that can provoke a reaction. Also, since it's usually their problem, why should you be bothered by it? Th…
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I am not certain what you mean by "community property change", unless it pertains to a divorce decree. If you live in a community property state, and the debts were incurred while you are married. The spouse is indeed responsible for those debts. In non-community property states the person who contr…
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It could be. The wording of the title and state laws would decide if a forced sale could be implemented. More than likely the house is considered owned by Tenants In Common. The homestead exemption would also be a factor. The creditors could definitely place a lien against the girlfriend's share of …
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From the remaining spouse, no. Collecting from the estate depends on many factors. The laws pertaining to real property and/or survivor rights take precedence over probate proceedings. A determination on what creditors might be entitled to can only be made after the deceased financial status has bee…
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You will need to follow due process of law. Which begins with filing a lawsuit in the court of jurisdiction. If you win you petition for a writ of judgment and then execute it against any of his nonexempt property. There is also wage garnishment and bank account levy options. Winning a lawsuit does …
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You are not safe with a narcissist, so you need to make sure it is over. The longer you stay, the more likely your children will show the same behavior in their relationships. Going from verbal to physical abuse can be a close thing. You need a team to support you as you make the move; the most dang…
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. You couldn't (improve on last answer, or have a relationship with a Narcissist without feeling abused). You cannot have a relationship with an abuser without feeling abused.
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Narcissists "love" their spouses or other significant othersas long as they continue to reliably provide them with Narcissistic Supply (in one word, with attention). Inevitably, they regard others as mere "sources", objects, or functions. Lacking empathy and emotional maturity, the narcissist's love…
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%DETAILS% This is always a tough question, and (depending on the local record keeping) requires some work to answer. I'm not sure if you have pursued this, but the best way to prove such relationships are from surviving legal documents. If there is a will (do you know where the father died?), adm…
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Birth, marriage and church records, wills, tax records, family bibles, census records and a number of other sources such as DNA tests......can provide evidence of a person's relatives.My father operates our "Easterling Family Genealogical Society, Inc." and has used all of the above mentioned source…
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As long as your children see, experience, and live, with healthier influences, they have as good a chance of growing up to live happy fulfilled lives as anyone. The narcissistic condition emanates from a seismic break of trust, a tectonic shift of what should have been a healthy relationship be…
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The real answer is no there are no agencies that will help you financially to do anything about getting out of an abusive relationship If you are not divorced, you can leave with your children since you are their parent. There are agencies in every town (ie Traveler's Aid, Salvation Army) that can g…
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It is hard, because it is not your job to parent them. Understand that verbally they will win and physical abuse is not far behind. When you are finished trying to make changes, it is time to leave. A good book with things to try is Patricia Evan's Verbally Abusive Relationship. Because they deny …
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Your friend is going to see what they want to see; so all you can do is try to convince him the best you can. If he doesn't see what you see then you will just have to let him come around to it on his own.
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Women stay in abusive relationships for a variety of reasons, it is never that simple. They may believe that they can work through issues with their partner and the abuse will diminish. It is never easy to leave someone when the heart is entangled, just because there is abuse doesn't mean there is n…
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Does he respect your boundaries and privacy? Does he ignore your wishes (for instance, by choosing from the menu or selecting a movie without as much as consulting you)? Does he disrespect your boundaries and treats you as an object or an instrument of gratification (materializes on your doorstep …
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Flat out leave the guy. Tell him no and that you know he won't change. If you stay strong, he will know you mean it. Keep in mind, even if he does know you mean it, just leave and don't stay. Controlling relationships can quickly become abusive, and then it might be too late. The sooner you leave, …
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You DO have somewhere to turn. As soon as he is away from you, get to a phone and call 911. They will send the police to help you. Tell the police that you are scared for your life, and you need to get away, they WILL HELP you, I promise. Take your kids, if you have any, and get away, before he kill…
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Answer If the abuse continues - you cannot make the relationship work. Answer You both need to get counseling, separate and together. If the abuse doesn't stop, you need to get out of the relationship. It will probably be a long hard "journey", but if you are both willing to work on it, you w…
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The abuser may recruit his children to do his bidding. He may use them to tempt, convince, communicate, threaten, and otherwise manipulate his target. He controls his - often gullible and unsuspecting - offspring exactly as he plans to control his ultimate prey. He employs the same mechanisms and d…
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People, particularly women, remain in an abusive household for a variety of reasons: economic, parental (to protect the children), and psychological. But the objective obstacles facing the battered spouse cannot be overstated. The abuser treats his spouse as an object, an extension of himself, devo…
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IMO, he is definitely controlling. As far as abusive, I would think you have to decide how his behavior makes you feel. Angry, sad, uncomfortable, or even scared? The "tantrums" seem to me, however, a pretty good sign of where your relationship is headed. I believe his actions may very well escalate…
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The chances are pretty high, unless he's had some form of counseling.  Most abusers are serial offenders, abusing one partner after the other.For detailed statistics and articles about treatment options, psychological testing, coping methods, and a lot more:The chances are still high. He's pro…
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Abusive and controlling. He needs to get some help. That is not a healthy relationship. One person should never be the parent. Both partners are equals. If you don't think he'll get help, or if you ask and he refuses, you need to leave him. It's not healthy to live that way. It will probably just ge…
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Yes, it's emotional and verbal abuse. You need to tell him how it makes you feel. That is rediculous that he is saying things about your weight like that. Especially since you just had a baby! Who isn't a bit overweight four months after having a baby?! And it's healthy to gain weight while you are …
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Abuse is quite polymorphic, in that, it can assume many different forms depending on the circumstances, the cultural background, the history, and ofcourse, the individual quirks of the abuser. The bottom line in an abusive relationship is that the abuser says things that make the victim uncomfortabl…
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I don't believe so and I really hope not. Men aren't the enemy.   No, when women, like me, come to these sites, they are already in an abusive relationship and need to have confirmation that they are still an intelligent, vibrant, human that can contribute, rather than buying into all of the …
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Answer I am not making excuses for him, but he probably got more angry when you showed him because he was embarrassed and suprised at himself. BUT...it was not OK for him to leave bruises or "manhandle" you just because he was angry. You need to try to talk to him about it. If he gets angry again…
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