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How can you help yourself and your children because your husband is covertly and verbally abusive?
Jtrex
The answer may depend on what form the covert abuse takes. Is he hiding assets from you or controlling the finances to the point where managing household affairs is very difficult? Is he controlling other things you need to manage your life or your kids lives? If he is making your household a hostile environment through controlling various things (especially money) that need to be shared in order for the family to function normally and is verbally but not physically abusive there is a chance that some form of intervention could help your family assuming your husband is willing to accept that there is a problem; that he is willing to accept some responsibility for the problem; and he is willing to change or work toward changing what behaviors he needs to change to make it work. And other members of the family will also need to make adjustments to behaviors they have that also contribute to the situation. It has to be an effort on the part of the family as well as the individual and in order for it to work; there has to be love and commitment at the base. There are some things you can do for yourself and your children independent of your husband, but they are unlikely to preserve your family. If he is physically abusive and you feel your or your children are in danger then you should get them and you out of the house. If your children are being exposed to the covert abuse, then you need to take a breath and step away from him. Once you are safe, then try to reconnect and work it out. But, only if he is willing to work with the issue with you by improving communication and going through counseling. You'll need to find a counselor who will work around any defensiveness and stories to get at the heart of the matter. Many abusers will not return for help if it is presented as all their fault in the beginning of the counseling relationship. Being separate will help you both change your behaviors with each other for the better.
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