How can you know when someone wants to sexually abuse you?

Answer 1

You cannot know what someone else wants unless they tell you.

That being said, generally, just trust your instincts, just be certain before you start accusing anyone. What could actually be innocent, or non-malicious intent, could be misinterpreted. The safest thing you can do is get out of the situation. Leave. If you are being forced to stay, it is an even bet that the person has bad intentions.

When you leave, get out, escape, keep your head. Do not react emotionally, just leave. Get to somewhere safe -- the school office, your parents, inside a restaurant or other place with people and light. Contact someone in authority. As soon as possible, write down the events that made you run, so you can keep the facts straight, what you did, what the other person did, and as many details as you can remember.

If someone is trying to touch you in ways that make you uncomfortable, tell them if you feel safe enough to do so. Here is the most often misunderstood element of sexual assaults: as long as you are silent and do not fight back, they are in charge, they have the control. The majority of victims are victims because they give up their power to the offender. That might seem harsh, but it is not intended to be. It is intended to give those who might become victims their power back. If faced with an assault, do not be powerless. Just be certain that it is what you believe it to be, because once you start down the road of accusation, there is no way back. What has been done cannot be often, easily, or at all undone.