The most effective therapy for BPD is DBT or Dialectical Behavior Therapy. It takes a long time to get a result, most knowledgeable therapists say at least 18 months of therapy before you see improvement. It is not your typical therapy inasmuch as you don't just talk about your feelings. You learn new skills and techniques for dealing with your feelings. It is the equivalent of a kid learning to tie his shoes or ride a bicycle. It takes time to learn but you always have the skill after you have learned it.
The other thing to remember is that the new scientific research shows that this is a disorder that is caused by improper functioning of the brain. Their prefrontal cortex does not work like yours does. The chemistry in the brain is way off and they can't help the way that they feel - any more than your epileptic friend can help that they broke your stuff when they had a seizure.
There is hope for people with BPD, it is not the mental health death sentence that it was even 5 years ago. These people can improve with the right therapy and if the family learns about the disease and how to handle it. Parents of diabetic kids have to change their lifestyles and habits to help their kids, these people need the equivalent of that.
Read "New Hope For People With Borderline Personality Disorder" and "Peace Is Every Step" and you will get some great information on how to help your loved one.
AnswerYou cant help her. Actually, continually trying to help her and trying to rescue her may be doing more harm than good. People who have been diagnosed with this personality disorder tend to seek help and attention from others, often to the point of "burning out" friends and family. Some of the personality traits associated with BPD include irrational rage and anger (sometimes violent), self harm, fear of abandoment, create crisis and chaos in their lives, black or white thinking, and difficulty with boundries. No matter how much you love this person, it will NEVER be enough. Having said this, most people who have BPD are great people who are fun and live normal productive lives. The best way to be friends with someone who has BPD is to set clear boundries in times of stress and not get sucked in to needy behavior. Even if this means they will be angry, threaten self harm or suicide. I speak from experience, both personal and proffessional, as I was diagnosed with the "onset" of borderline personality at 14. Since then I have spent many years learning about DBT (dialectical behavior therapy by marsha linehan) which is about coping with negative feelings. My onset of BPD did not develop into the personality disorder and I greatly credit that to this therapy. I now work in the mental health care field, and people with BPD are often treated horribly because they are seen as "troublesome" patients who manipulate the staff and resources, often being checked in and out of hospital with no improvement. I hate seeing this and I believe that with the right help and support people with BPD can be even more successful and have very fufilling relationships. AnswerWhat are the symptoms of BPD? Also could it go away? I seemed to have some behavior sort of BPD not as extreme but nonetheless when I was in my late twenties, maybe off and on.but never told I was BPD. ____________________I don't know too much about it, but one of the biggest symptoms is the I hate you but don't leave me syndrome where the BPD will push their loved ones away and then try to pull them back in such a way that it is literaly draining on the other person.
AnswerNo, it cant "go away". BPD is a personality disorder, that can be treated but not "cured." In cases where children or teens get a diagnosis, it is usaually because she shows BPD personality traits. You can not effectively diagnose a child / youth with any persoanlity disorder as they have not matured enough. Once a diagnosis is made in adulthood, BPD will not "go away" but the symptoms and its effects on ones life and their relationships can be manged through effective therapy- such as DBT or cognitive therapy.i myself was diagnosed BPD aged 20 and you CAN recover from it- it has taken me awhile but i am almost well now.
It is a disorder not a disease, I have slight spinal scoliosis, and my friend has major spinal scoliosis.
Hemophilia is not a disease, my dear friend. Rather, it is a genetic disorder regarding the blood.
No but it means you need REAL friends. Go find someone to hang out with! Then you won't even need imaginary friends.
Friends can be wonderful when you know what you need to do and need support. However, I found that neither friends nor family knew anything about what was going on with my ex or how to deal with it. Also, it is good to leave reputations intact when dealing with a person who will remain in the community. So find a counselor who is well-versed in this area to gather information and to plan your actions. I would recomend that you talk to a counselor. Friends are great, but you want to be careful; especially at the start of a friendship. Also, a counselor will be much more qualified to help you find the answers you need. It is also usually easier and feels safer to talk to a stranger. After all, you do not have to worry about what they will think of you afterwards. Plus, you are not going to shock a counselor. They hear it all and hopefully understand most of it! I hope this answer helps. If you need help dealing with your own narcissistic problems, or feel you have narcissistic tendencies, then maybe you should consult a more qualified person. Your friends can be a good starting place, especially because you probably want their support. Yet, if you do have a serious problem and need to deal with it, your friends probably won't be able to help you as much as a counselor, for example. So, your best bet is to try and consult a more professional or even unbiased source (someone not your friend) and go from there. Eventually, if you do find you have a problem, you may tell your friends for their support. Stalkers and the Borderline Personality The Borderline Personality In recent years psychologists have learned about and done case studies on a new personality disorder which the DSM-III-R classifies as an Axis II disorder- the Borderline Personality . This classification includes such personality disorders as the Anti-social Personality, the Histrionic Personality and the Narcissistic Personality. Several psychologists (including myself) diagonosed my stalker as afflicted with the Borderline Personality. Characteristic of the Borderline (derived from research done by Kreisman & Straus, 1989) are: a shaky sense of identity sudden, violent outbursts oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection brief, turbulent love affairs frequent periods of intense depression eating disorders, drug abuse, and other self-destructive tendencies an irrational fear of abandonment and an inability to be alone Not much research has been done on the Borderline Personality, and for many years it was difficult to diagnose- and to treat. A Borderline often feels as though his/her life is marked with a distinctive emptiness; a void in which a relationship often acts to fill. Many times the Borderline is a victim of an early dysfunctional family situation and/or emotional/physical abuse by those he/she trusted early on in childhood. The Borderline is psychotic , in the original, psychological meaning of the term: he/she is not in control and not in touch with reality. To the Borderline, a softly spoken word of advice can be construed as a threat on his/her emotional stability. An outsider's viewpoint that the Borderline is not in touch with reality often ends in a bitter and irrational dissassociation from the outsider on the part of the Borderline. Often, the Borderline ends up very much alone and victim to his/her disillusions. The Borderline stalker is very apt to see his/her actions as perfectly justified; he/she has paranoid disillusions which support these-often with disturbing frequency. The Borderline often has brief love affairs which end abruptly, turbulently and leave the Borderline with enhanced feelings of self-hatred, self-doubt and a fear that is not often experienced by rational people. When the Borderline's relationships turn sour, the Borderline often begins to, at first, harass the estranged partner with unnecessary apologies and/or apologetic behavior (i.e. letters of apology 'from the heart', flowers delivered at one's place of employment, early morning weeping phonecalls, etc.). However, the Borderline does not construe his/her behavior as harassment- to the Borderline he/she is being 'responsible' for his/her past behaviors. The next phase of the Borderline Personality develops relatively quickly and soon he/she feels suddenly betrayed, hurt, etc. and seeks to victimize the estranged partner in any way he/she can Strangely enough, this deleterious behavior is always coupled with a need to be near or in constant contact with the estranged partner . While sending threats to the estranged partner, it is very common for the Borderline to begin to stalk his/her estranged partner in an effort to maintain contact. This effort is motivated by the excruciating fear that the Borderline will end up alone and anger that [the estranged partner] has put him/her in this position. We are finding, in many cases, that a great deal of stalking behavior is associated with Borderline or related personality disorders. Earlier research did not incorporate the Borderline Personality in stalking profiles; research now is beginning to focus on the Borderline in such disorders as Erotomania, etc.
By getting them help with a medical professional.
With understanding. If this person is important to you, you might discuss it with them, or with a professional who could give you some insight into ways to handle your friend's swings.
Yes, a caring personality is a good quality of a friend.
Be yourself. If they do not like your personality, they should not be your friend.
lung disease my friend has lung disease
The filing system was in complete disorder; nothing had been filed in the correct sections. My friend has an eating disorder. She is sick after eating anything. The end of the world will be filled with chaos and disorder.
You can hang out with your boyfriends's friend but it is not advisable to d so.
A close friend can affect your personality a lot. He/She can change or alter the way you think or act.