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How does a person who has been in an abusive relationship end up in another one?
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∙ 13y ago
It's what they know and got used to and sadly they end up coming back to it. The same thing can be said about girls who date losers.. Generally a lot of girls get their first conception of a man from their father. I.E. if a girl was raised from a loving sweet father, chances are she'll find the same qualities in a man and get with him. On the other hand if her father was an abusive drunk, sadly she'll find someone like that and get with them but will only leave under great stress and usually will come back because they feel they will not find 'love' anywhere else.
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How do you get out of a abusive relationship after being in for about 30 or more years.?
Getting out of an abusive relationship is the same, whether you've been together 30 days or 30 years. Please read the info in the link I provided below.
Will I be in an abusive relationship if I chose to be single forever?
No, you won't be in an abusive relationship, if you chose to be single forever (meaning the walking on eggshells, fighting and arguing, physical and verbal abuse, etc. has been foiled and it won't happen).
Why do you think some people do not want to help people they know in an abusive relationship?
One reason may be is that they don't know how to help. Another reason may be they are afraid to help. The power that an abuser has over the abused is frightening, both emotionally and physically. It is not unheard of that an abusive relationship can end in murder. Often times the abused person has been brainwashed into thinking they don't deserve anything better. Or they know they need help, but are too afraid to ask for it. There are professional organizations that are trained to help people get out of abusive relationships. They will offer a safe place to stay, counseling and the tools to start their life over. The abused person is the only one who can make positive steps to leave an abusive relationship. The best that family and friends can do is support that decision.
Is it normal for someone who has been abused to be obsessively reading books on abusive men or looking at abuse websites trying to find that one thing that will put the abuser in his place?
It might be necessary to get the person in for therapy. If nothing else, the therapist might be able to get the abused person to leave the abusive relationship and be a little less obsessive.
Is there a girl who has been in a teen dating violence?
I have never been in an abusive relationship but you should get rid of whoever is hurting you, and if he continues, tell someone about it.
Can a person who has been abusive really change?
Absolutely. Not all abusers are hopeless cases.
Is it normal to forgive an abusive parent when they are diagnosed with a terminal disease?
It is a strong person who can recognize a terminally ill parent who has been abusive to them and yes, it is possible and mature to see the abusive treatment as part of that terminally ill disease.
Can a person who has been verbally abusive in a relationship ever change in that same relationship and can the person that they have abused ever really forgive them?
Change in abusers is VERY VERY VERY rare, if ever. Forgiveness is a process. The abused must forgive THEMSELVES first & foremost. It's impossible to forgive someone who doesn't own, apologize and change permanently.
What is a person that has never been in a relationship?
Celibate
You have been in an abusive relationship and now with a lovely partner but you have cheated on him and in the past treated him bad by hitting him and having fits you love him whats wrong with me?
nothing is wrong with you. an abusive relationship will tweak your mind. if you feel somethng is wrong see a counselor. there are many of them out there. they will help you to understand what is going on with you. How long have you been apart from this abuser? what causes you to snap on this new one?
How do you recover from a abusive relationship?
You will definitely need therapy, some people think rebound is a cure but it's not you have to take time for your self, start living again, meet new people. Abusive relationships sometimes attract some people. So if someone starts becoming suspect leave don't try to doing them, don't rationalize the situation get out of there. Once you have been abused its like you have it written on your forehead or something, but abusers can tell and if your major careful you can end right back up in another abusive relationship.
Are there books and videos available for verbally abusive men who want to change?
* The best way for an abused man to move on from a verbally abusive relationship is to seek counseling. Just like women, men may have lost their self respect; feel demeaned and ashamed (they are suppose to be the stronger sex) and he needs to find out why he stayed so long in the abusive relationship. Without proper counseling just like women, men can choose another abusive partner in the future and don't have the tools to tell when rag flags go up that the person they are with is controlling at best and the worst .. verbally or even physically abusive. Men have been brought up to not hit women, so it is very often hard for the man to make sense as to why he put up with the abuse for so long. Men can be victims of abuse too and they should not blame themselves.
