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No, you would not cheat and lye to them. There obvioiusly is no LOVE if your spouse is continually doing this. Why would you put up with this kind of behavior? What are you waiting for. If it is the number 36 that keeps holding you back, it's only a number. There is a whole wonderful life out there, and no one needs this kind of grief in their lives. The love and respect for you is gone. It sounds like this is a marriage of convenience only ie, for finacial, security and or dependant reasons. Why you would still be holding on, is the big question? You know, it is as much your fault as your spouses, to even allow this kind of infidality to continue. Make a plan, and follow through, change your life. You deserve to be happy too!
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How do you get your wife back if you've been with her 10 years and married 5 years and she walked out to be with your identical twin brother and you still love her dearly?
Answer Finding out why she left you for your twin would be a good place to start. This might mean you'll have to listen to her, for a change.
What should you do if you've been with your boyfriend over 3 years and you've been through a lot together and you know he loves you dearly and you are ready to get married but don't know if he is?
Answer why not take the initiative and ask him?
What should you do if you've been married 33 years and your husband cheated on you and really fell in love and cries to you about her but chooses to stay with you?
Answer If you have children, save the marriage for their sake. If not, then it is really up to you. You have to weigh a few things: do you love him? …Is the relationship worth saving? Will he cheat again? Would he be willing to move to another state so he never has the temptation to see the other woman again? An affair is serious, it is betrayal and destroys most couples. It is the rare few who choose to work through it who will come out stronger in the end. Answer 2 I disagree with the first answer. This part may not apply to you but.. Do you really want to raise your daughter(s) to grow up and be so insecure that they would stay with a man that is crying about another woman?!?!? Or would you want to raise your son(s) thinking that marriage means nothing and that he doesn't need to respect his wife? Anyways after 33 years of marriage your kids would be old enough to see that you deserve to be happy and loved and treated like the queens we women are. Obviously 33 yrs doesn't mean much to him so I would walk away and find someone who will care about you so much that he would be willing to cry for you. I do have to say you are some woman for still being there and not throwing his ass out on the front door step the first time her name came out of his mouth. I would have kicked his ass out so fast he wouldn't have even known what hit him. Everyone deserves someone who will be true to them and be there for THEM, you are no different. Good Luck. Answer I'm not making excuses for your husband, but there is no doubt he's going through "Andropause" (was called mid-life crisis before that) and it's similar to menopause (starts around the age of 40). They can have hot flashes, mood swings, become depressed, confused and want to retain their youth and often feel they haven't had a chance to sow their wild oats. Many men can go through Andropause quite smoothly and although may get a little moody or change a wee bit they don't always go out and cheat on their wives. After 33 years of marriage I think it's worth communicating with him and tell him flat out that if he doesn't go with you to marriage counseling or seeking out therapy together then he's has to get out of the house! By accepting his whining about this woman you are enabling him to continue with this and the reason he is doing this is he wants you to make the decision for him so he won't feel guilty about what he has done. Don't sit by and take it anymore. It's therapy or the door!
I don't know what kind of marriage you and your husband have, but lot of times men feels his wife is not pleasing him the way he expected to. Lot of it has to do with physical… appearance, personality, routine life style, sex, and so on. When men are at work, they see another woman who's dressed sexy and looking sexy. Then he comes home to see his wife looking the same as she did every other day... I am not saying every men think this way or cheat. But you have to understand that you can't be too comfortable with your appearance front of your man. I think this saying goes same for the men as well. I guess everyone takes love and marriage for granted, and forgetting how things used to be when they met the first time. In order to keep healthy marriage, and preventing from cheating.. Knowing how to make your partner feel loved and attracted to you. Think about it, why would an anyone cheat on their partner when they know he or she is sexy to them and turns them on! Excitement makes men keep on their toes. Wouldn't it be just wonderful is the reality of life was just like that. Meet your husband at the door with lingerie on looking hot! Make-up on just right, hair gleaming as if you just walked out of a salon and a beautiful gourmet dinner ready for him (of course after you have drawn him a bubble bath down to shaving him!) The truth of the matter is either women have to work to help with the future plans of the couple, or some people work, then the mother comes home and looks after children, cleans house, etc. Mothers that stay home sometimes don't talk to an adult all day and can only speak in "grunts and groans" learned from her tiny children. When children are old enough to go to school then it's dear 'ol mom that generally takes them to school, picks them up and that's not even including taking their children to the doctors, dentists, or any sports they may be in. Women simply are tired and so it's no wonder they have little energy for their husbands. Many men work, come home, sit and watches TV, eats, does "his thing" on the computer or whatever. Almost like it's a given! Now here's a reality shot in the arm. How about both parties chipping in with some chores and raising the children. Who says men shouldn't take an active interest in their children and taking them off their wives's hands so she may get a chance to take that bubble bath, relax, fix her hair and make-up or, here's another thought ... get grandparents or trade-off with other friends with kids and take the wife out for a nice dinner and dancing or a mini holiday. Some men have had it too good for too long. They expect their wives to look like #10's yet do all of the above. Doesn't happen and will never happen! You want to have a sexy wife that is still attractive to you then get off your lazy behinds and give them a break so they can go to the gym and work-out and get their bodies back in shape, or simply go and get their hair done or visit with girlfriends. You'd notice a bigger difference in your wives if you helped out.
How do you tell your husband that you've been cheating on him with his best friend for the last 10 years and you've been married for 10 years?
Answer You don't; if you love your husband just stop cheating; if you don't love you husband, tell him you don't love him and file for a divorce.
Who should you go with ex boyfriend who you've been with for 3 years but who cheated on you or a man who is married but wants to leave his wife for you?
Answer Neither! Why would you want someone like that! If the man is married dont you wonder if he will do the same to you! why go with someone who cheated on you …if he's bound to do it again! Once a cheater always a cheater!
How do you let someone go when you've been in love with them for 5 years but they are with someone else?
any long term realtionship takes time. they say it takes half as long as the term of the relationship. tyr to meet opther people.
he/she obviously doesnt feel as strong as you do, say BYE! Get over the person. They do not deserve your trust or care if they care about you as little as to cheat o…n you. There are far better people on this planet. Keep looking. Don't worry, you'll get over them. ** trust me i know that when someone you love cheats on you , you want to leave them but once you really think about it you love that person so much you dont know what to do right? well from my experience you need to sit down and have a very seriouse talk with that person but dont look weak , tell him/her how wrong they are n how you really fell and keep threatining to leave them and their reaction will tell you what to do **
No! you may have thought it was love, but if you fall out it wasn't love @ all.
no way some1 who does that is just an annyoing person
Would you agree to go out on a date with someone that you've been out with before and had fun but haven't really talked to in the past several months?
Yes, why not. You had fun with him before and since you havn't seen each other for a while, there will be alot to talk about. Perhaps this time around, you both would not lo…ose contact with each other.
How do you get over someone you've been in love with for 20 years but you know that you can't be with?
Well just get over with your fears in telling her/him and just suck it up and tell her (but if he/she has a boy/girl friend then i got no help for you) ---- In thi…s case, there really is no easy way to let love go. As a sensitive human being, it is unimaginably difficult to still be in love with a person when you know that you can't be with the one that you love. But after 20 years, you have to be pragmatic. You basically have two choices: (1) hope that you can somehow be with him or (2) face the facts and be prepared to experience the five stages of grief which are: Denial (this isn't happening to me!) Anger (why is this happening to me?) Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...) Depression (I don't care anymore) Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes) Before I continue, I am assuming that the man is either married; a homosexual or doesn't love you, and it is for one of these reasons that you know that you cannot be with him. If, conversely, you cannot be with him because you are married and don't want to hurt your husband and children (if applicable), then the remainder of my answer is not really applicable. While it's hard to believe that you will eventually reach the stage of "acceptance", especially just after having made this monumental decision; time has a funny way of transforming such a loss into a memory or at the very least, makes the "hurt" feel less. There's an old saying that's not too far from the truth. It states that failure is a prerequisite to success. Regardless as to why you can't be with the man that you love, you will soon realize that your loss was probably for the best. Never change your values to please another person. There are several people that would be extremely happy to meet just a person such as you. Wouldn't life have dealt you a bad card if there was only one man in the entire world who could love you and receive your love in return? Note: If you're already married and don't want to hurt your husband and children (if applicable), then re-submit your question stating that fact. Either I and/or another person will surely answer the question.
What would you do if your first real boyfriend that you really loved cheated on you with your best friend you have known for 13 years would you still be friends after everything you've been through?
Well,if he's your first real love,he cheated with your best friend that you've known for 13 years... i would say YES:because it's just a guy,and she's probably very sorry...… i would say NO:Because if she was your favorite friend...she wouldn't do that! Choose which one...
No. It is not possible to truly love someone if you've cheated on them. If you've cheated on them, then there's obviously something about them that you don't like and you are …seeking someone else who has the quality that your person doesn't have. If you truly loved someone, you wouldn't have cheated on them in the first place. It's probably best if you told them the truth, and just moved on with your life. If they forgive you, then great. But if not, just move on. There's no point in trying to mend something that had issues to begin with.
What would you do if your parents made arrangements for you to marry someone you did not really love?
I would marry the person and see if it works out and if it doesn't, I would then get a divorce. Don't have any children with this person until you think you can both live …and love each other. Or try living with them first before marriage. The person you love may not really love you back, people change.
A person can be embarrassed about there feelings if its the first time they have fallen in love .And some times people lie so the don't hurt the feelings of some one they love….Or they may lie because they don't wanna know everyone else's opinion on their partner so they tend to lie about have they love someone.
If you've been dating someone for a few months but notice he don't really have his finances in order but you're planning to marry him soon What do you do?
You postpone the wedding. That's a dealbreaker.