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If you really love someone you've been married to for 36 years would you continue to cheat on and lie to them?
No, you would not cheat and lye to them. There obvioiusly is no LOVE if your spouse is continually doing this. Why would you put up with this kind of behavior? What are you waiting for. If it is the number 36 that keeps holding you back, it's only a number. There is a whole wonderful life out there, and no one needs this kind of grief in their lives. The love and respect for you is gone. It sounds like this is a marriage of convenience only ie, for finacial, security and or dependant reasons. Why you would still be holding on, is the big question? You know, it is as much your fault as your spouses, to even allow this kind of infidality to continue. Make a plan, and follow through, change your life. You deserve to be happy too!
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Answer What he 'claims' and what he feels is not the same thing here obviously. Even though you MAY have the guy officially, you still seem to be second best in t…his picture. AND YOU ARE NOT THAT - NOT TO HIM OR ANYBODY!!!
No matter what it's going to affect you in a negative way. The best advice is to surround yourself constantly with friends/family and keep yourself busy. Time will be yo…ur best friend and as it goes by it will slowly but surely heal you. Keep telling yourself you deserve better and never even consider taking that person back unless you want cheated on again. Once a cheater always a cheater. I've experienced this 3 weeks ago so I'm going through the same thing.
I don't know what kind of marriage you and your husband have, but lot of times men feels his wife is not pleasing him the way he expected to. Lot of it has to do with physical… appearance, personality, routine life style, sex, and so on. When men are at work, they see another woman who's dressed sexy and looking sexy. Then he comes home to see his wife looking the same as she did every other day... I am not saying every men think this way or cheat. But you have to understand that you can't be too comfortable with your appearance front of your man. I think this saying goes same for the men as well. I guess everyone takes love and marriage for granted, and forgetting how things used to be when they met the first time. In order to keep healthy marriage, and preventing from cheating.. Knowing how to make your partner feel loved and attracted to you. Think about it, why would an anyone cheat on their partner when they know he or she is sexy to them and turns them on! Excitement makes men keep on their toes. Wouldn't it be just wonderful is the reality of life was just like that. Meet your husband at the door with lingerie on looking hot! Make-up on just right, hair gleaming as if you just walked out of a salon and a beautiful gourmet dinner ready for him (of course after you have drawn him a bubble bath down to shaving him!) The truth of the matter is either women have to work to help with the future plans of the couple, or some people work, then the mother comes home and looks after children, cleans house, etc. Mothers that stay home sometimes don't talk to an adult all day and can only speak in "grunts and groans" learned from her tiny children. When children are old enough to go to school then it's dear 'ol mom that generally takes them to school, picks them up and that's not even including taking their children to the doctors, dentists, or any sports they may be in. Women simply are tired and so it's no wonder they have little energy for their husbands. Many men work, come home, sit and watches TV, eats, does "his thing" on the computer or whatever. Almost like it's a given! Now here's a reality shot in the arm. How about both parties chipping in with some chores and raising the children. Who says men shouldn't take an active interest in their children and taking them off their wives's hands so she may get a chance to take that bubble bath, relax, fix her hair and make-up or, here's another thought ... get grandparents or trade-off with other friends with kids and take the wife out for a nice dinner and dancing or a mini holiday. Some men have had it too good for too long. They expect their wives to look like #10's yet do all of the above. Doesn't happen and will never happen! You want to have a sexy wife that is still attractive to you then get off your lazy behinds and give them a break so they can go to the gym and work-out and get their bodies back in shape, or simply go and get their hair done or visit with girlfriends. You'd notice a bigger difference in your wives if you helped out.
You know the old saying : "If you love something, set it free" Which means, if there's a reason a person shouldn't be with another person, that other person will leave her/hi…m because he/she loves him/her. And, about being mean, a person will get over the partner that left them easier if they are mad at them. Otherwise, they would be depressed and sad all the time.
You really can't. If you choose to place priority on your connection to this person above self love you are telling this person that they are more important to you than …you are to yourself. You're making this person more important than the truth. You're saying that YOU would rather live the lie than to experience reality (even if it is painful). At some point you will need to distance yourself from this person. If it is a relative sibling parent, child, etc), decrease your interaction as you can't always get rid of family. If it is a spouse or friend you may be on your way to a separation of truth as you might ultimately have to sever all connections in order to live an authentic life. Although painful; it will prove profitable in the end.
This will depend on you and what are the stories behind it. There's a few ways you can tell and sense if your spouse is been cheating on you. The cell phone can not be found …laying around the house and it's always on vibrate or silence. Your spouse stop having sex with you maybe he wanted more sex lately because of the new experience his having with the other person. Just read his body language, if he or she acts differently that will be one of the sign..
If someone has been in the U.S. illegally for four years is it possible they would be deported if they married a U.S. citizen?
well, yes, if they have no papers it doesn't matter if they have 10 kids and 15 grandkids and a us citizen spouse. you can get deported. the chances of getting caught are so …slim now though, but yes. deportation is possible. I married an illigel from mexico, i went to the court house applied for the marriage app, filled it out and it didn't ask for him or my ss#, he never went to the court house and we got the marriage lic. we got married 3 days later at the courthouse.
What should you do if your husband cheated and you have been separated for a year and you met someone whom you're in love with and now your husband wants to come back?
Answer You have to do what is right in your own heart. You have been separated, and he made the choice to cheat. If you are just trying to hurt him back then tw…o wrongs don't make a right, but a year is a long while, and love is important as well as trust, so if you feel this new man in your life is someone you can love, depend on and above all trust, then I would file for divorce. As I have mentioned before in posts "the head of the snake always turns around and bites you in the butt" if you do something wrong and your husband did. He is now facing the fact you have fallen out of love with him and you're in love with another man. Good luck Marcy
well probably becasue there selfcentered slefish and cant love therselfs so they lo0k so more it has to do with selfiness! Bet you've never made a mistake, and learn to s…pell!
Answer If this new person in your life truly loves you telling that person you've been married twice before should't really matter to him if he truly loves you. It'…s always best to be honest as being a liar or not telling someone about this fact could come back to haunt you and you wouldn't want that.
he/she obviously doesnt feel as strong as you do, say BYE! Get over the person. They do not deserve your trust or care if they care about you as little as to cheat o…n you. There are far better people on this planet. Keep looking. Don't worry, you'll get over them. ** trust me i know that when someone you love cheats on you , you want to leave them but once you really think about it you love that person so much you dont know what to do right? well from my experience you need to sit down and have a very seriouse talk with that person but dont look weak , tell him/her how wrong they are n how you really fell and keep threatining to leave them and their reaction will tell you what to do **
The first time my ex-boyfriend said i love you to me it didn't feel sincer. It has been 2months since then and he has cheated on me for someone who would give him some.how do i get him back?
Answer He cheated on you and you want him back??? Are you sure, because he's only going to cheat again. Once a cheater always a cheater. Do yourself a favor, move o…n and let him break someone elses heart.
How can a married man who has been cheating on his wife for nearly a year with a woman he is deeply in love with make his wife feel the same way she used to feel when they first fell in love?
Answer There's no way in hell you will make her feel like she did when you first married. At that time, it was all glitter and gold, and now for some reason you are… having sex with another woman and you don't say if your wife knows or not, but if she does know there's no way to ever win her heart again, once a heart is broken it's hard to mend it. The glitter and Gold have evidently worn off for you or you wouldn't be in another woman's bed would you.
I would be thinking long and hard about whether to continue the relationship. Lying (especially about matters of importance) is a very bad sign. People who do this tend …to be dishonest in many ways.
What do you do when you fall in love with someone else and you are married you really not happy with you life partner?
You need to weigh your option here. Are you really in love with this new person, or are you just a little bored of married life? Have things gone a bit stale in your marriage …so you seek adventure else where? If so you need to work out if throwing away your marriage is worth this new person? What if this new person you've fallen for doesn't feel the same way? What if they don't want to be together long run.. additionally, what if they are only interested because it's exciting seeing some one who's married, will that die off when you are divorced and all the attention is on them. It's a serious thing to think about, but remember, if you were serious about this new person, but worried you will hurt your married partner, you need to be happy for you, don't stay married if you're not happy because you will grow to resent each other and things will end sour. Always try your hardest, you made a commitment to stay with that person for the rest of your lives, hence marriage. If you are going to throw in the towel, you need to talk to them about this.
If I cared about my marriage I would avoid that couple completely.
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