Sure because the only way they validate themselves is by controlling another. They put on a good farce in the beginning to reel a person in and when they know they have them, bam, they become a monster. Sad to say that it is far too common and the other thing that abusers have in common is they actually are the ones that are more fearful, afraid of being alone and afraid no one will love them, so they act out in there own demented way.
uncomfortable
Not always but it helps
How you repair a relationship is up to you because if you learn online it might not be meant for a person like you. You simply have to treat him to somewhere he always wanted to be or send him a gift.
What you are feeling is part of the abuse that took place. YOu were made to feel that nothing you did was right and that is the strong hold of abuse. Im proud of you for taking the steps for a healthier life. It doesnt show loyalty is shows strength... Hopefully, in leaving the abuser, you have behaved in a way that makes you proud: doing no harm, just removing yourself and your belongings from the situation. We tend to replay situations to see if we can make them come out right the next time around. My wedding was a circus, and for years I dreamed of redoing it so it would be as I pictured in my mind. Perhaps you are in the phase of mourning the passing of the relationship and its history?
Yes, there is a strong correlation between substance abuse, rckless behaviors, and abusive conduct. Hi! Oh, definitely. Even if the person comes from a home where there is alcohol abuse and that person doesn't even really drink! But because they witnessed the abuse that goes along with the drinking. I believe it is called "dry alcoholic". But if the person in the relationship is abusive and also an alcoholic, definitely there is a relationship. They drink because they are trying to anesthesize their pain. Yes! Often abusers abuse alcohol/drugs to "deal" with their problems. They might even blame you for their drinking/drug use, or at least my abuser did. "If you did/didn't do this/that I wouldn't have to drink to feel better!" Ugh.
Abusers are bad. Period. It is common for someone who has been abused to feel lonely when the abuser becomes absent, but it is because of the stress of change. If you feel yourself running back to your abuser, get help. The situation will only escalate otherwise.
yup. but you should get over him.
Generally , no you cannot. An abuser by nature is not trustworthy. When someone abuses you, they tell you right there that you are less. They lie and blame to make you think that you are responsible for the abuse- you made them do it. They seem to be able to treat everyone else, including strangers, better than you. Abuse is a vicious cycle. The abuser may mask the problem for a while and get you to feel comfortable in the relationship but the cycle will always kick in again because the reason they abuse is always there in their own head. Remember that ab abuser must always try to control, intimidate and manipulate you so they will agree to anything just to fool you into staying in the relationship. You need to seek professional advice to help you understand why you accept that kind of treatment and how you can move on with your life without the abuser.
Well firstly the victim would often feel scared around their partner and would always be on-edge around them, secondly the victim would always carry a lack of trust against the abuser and these things are needed for a good healthy relationship.
Well you shouldn't always think that. If you're in a relationship and you feel that way, talk to your partner. Tell him/her about how you feel.
An abuser may be afraid of intimacy and the commitment it requires. This is a rather curious question. Let me tell you why. It's common for people to drop partners in physical relationships when they express feelings, that's a "fear of commitment" thing. It isn't common at all for an abuser to drop someone that way. They usually actively seek situations in which they can feel more cared about than caring. That is another form of control.
They feel that because, someone likes them.
Because he is a user and needs a new "victim" to abuse to make himself feel superior again.
you can tell after any dispute whether it be an argument or a physical fight.If at thee end you feel hurt,down,disrespected,or violated.you are in an abusive relationship
loseing always sucks.. however depending on the type of fight sometimes loseing is winning...take a step back and focus on the bigger picture..
A person who is in a relationship where God is omnipresent always might feel closer to his or her spouse. Some people believe that a relationship with God is as important as a relationship with a family member or spouse.
Because the abuser makes the victim feel like they are and will be nothing without them. Its all about brainwashing, and making the victim fell dependant upon the abuser. No one should EVER stay in an abusive relationship, not even for the kids. That is the worst mistake someone could make. Abuser prey on the weak minded, however no one has to be weak minded, they ust have to learn how to survive on their own, and surviving on your own is possible.