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Was your abuser really that bad if you feel worse without him?

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Answered 2007-01-09 22:24:15

Abusers are bad. Period. It is common for someone who has been abused to feel lonely when the abuser becomes absent, but it is because of the stress of change. If you feel yourself running back to your abuser, get help. The situation will only escalate otherwise.

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