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Should you return to a loveless 20 year marriage having left 2 years ago for someone you do love for the sake of the children?
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∙ 18y ago
No, if you are both taking care of your children and showing them proper love and attention, then they will be better off having both parents happy. I am a child of divorce, trust me, it's better when they are happy. I would say that if your children seem happy and adjusted then they would be better off where they are. Sometimes when children are subjected to that kind of environment they can sense somethings wrong or they may feel that this is the way a marriage is supposed to be and may end up in the same type of situation you are in now. Absolutely not. Both you and your ex husband can be good loving parents to your children without being married. Staying in an unhappy relationship can cause tension and resentment that will be noticed by your children. At the least, try to have an amicable relationship with your ex husband. NEVER stay married "for the sake of the children" because kids are not fools and they are stronger than you think. If you both or one is miserable, kids will grow up thinking the disfunctional relationship you both have and the lack of mutual love and respect is what they will learn to look for when they get into relationships. That will be all they know. You need to set a healthy example, not a disfunctional one. Don't send children mixed signals or the wrong message. That's the WORST thing you could do 'for the sake of the children'. OK, so you left the loveless marriage for somebody else and now that relationship hasn't worked out... I guess the grass wasn't greener on the other side and now you want to go back and you are pretending to be concerned about the children. This is sad.
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Why would a man stay in a loveless marriage if he's in love with another women?
well that's entirely up to the individual, in my personal opinion he should not stay in a loveless marriage but it depends on the consequences... if there are children involved or financial implications or maybe the thought of being alone keeps him in a marriage.
How do you decide a marriage is not worth continuing when it feels the love has gone but there are children to consider?
While I have never been one to encourage divorce I do not believe that a loveless marriage should be held together by children. I don't believe any marriage should be held together by children. I believe a marriage should be held together by love. Children are very smart little people and if they grow up in a loveless household they will learn that's the way it should be and could end up in the same situation some day. I also believe that if persistent arguing between the parents is present as most likely is in a loveless marriage, it creates a such a stressful environment for the children and has a negative impact on them emotionally, mentally, and can create long-lasting behaviorial problems with the children. If handled properly, the children will benefit tremendously emotionally and mentally, and they will be much happier if the parents are happier, even if the parents are not together. However, I do believe that it is important for the children to continuing seeing both parents on a regular basis. I personally experienced this situation as a child and even though at first I really didn't like my parents living apart, they were so much happier thereby creating a less stressful, happier environment for my brother and I. There was no aruing anymore which was really nice. Everything was much more positive in everyone's lives. I can't imagine anything worse than children growing up in a loveless household. |They will not have the opportunity to learn what love should really be like but instead may experience stress, dysfunction, and a lack of passion for life and other people.
Should you stay together after 20 years of marriage even if you don't have any loving feelings toward each other?
No. It is better for everyone involved to end a loveless marriage as quickly and painlessly as possible.
Is it possible to have a successful marriage even if you cannot have children?
Certainly! A marriage does not equal man, woman, + children. Marriage = man + woman. Children are a result of marriage. You should still love each other like you did before children became a possibility. You can also look into adoption, surrogacy, and in vitro. Your marriage should not be dependent upon children you should still be in love with just the two of you and be able to make things work enen though plans have changed.
What should you do if the the spark is gone from your marriage and you love someone else?
You should get a divorce.
What if your husband tells you he get fall out of love on you what should you do?
If your husband says he doesn't love you anymore get divorced ,you need to move on from a loveless marriage before that do go in for couple counselling
What does the rain symbolize in marriage is a private affair?
it symbolizes that he should totally let the children in
What should a woman do when a guy constantly talks about having kids but not marriage?
Bring up the answer casually in the conversation about children. If he tries to avoid it, he may not like the idea of marriage. Keep bringing marriage up in a conversation about children until he cracks, and talk about marriage face-to-face.
Should you marry for love or financial security?
Love should be first and foremost in any marriage. Financial insecurities can be overcome. Marriage is being with someone you have vowed to be with for the rest of your life. You should never be with someone that you don't love. That is grounds for a very unhappy life together.
My wife said she feels no love for me but still wants to live together?
Your wife is after security meaning financial security. You have control over your marriage and you do not want to live in a loveless marriage. You should communicate your feelings to your wife and tell her that you will not live under her conditions in a loveless marriage and you will file for divorce. Sit down together and start communicating your feelings to each other and if your wife refuses then you are best to file for divorce and get out of this lifeless marriage.
Is seimei in loveless the book really a killer?
Maybe u should read the book and find out.
What are some reasons that someone should have children?
The right reasons someone should have children include to create a family, introduce yourself to new challenges, fulfill devotion to children to spread joy and accept destiny.
