Should you tell the other man's wife if you are cheating?

Answer 1

Absolutely! (discreetly)

AnswerEverything I have ever read says keep your nose out of other people's love lives. You may be wrong. He may suspect and not want to face the truth, he may have given his blessing, there are all sorts of reasons why you should not tell.

If he asks outright then perhaps you should tell but not otherwise.

ANSWER:

No you don't, first of all it's not your business even if you are the wife of the man she's having an affair with. Second; you don't know the man. The wife is the wife that needs to tell, especially if there's a reason why she went to the other man. If that woman is having the affair, she night have some reason, not that I'm on that "teach your husband " a lesson. Its not that. From my own personal experience I did that also because I have so many disappointing life, always alone, always waiting, wondering if it's going to be over or it will be my turn. So before you think of going to the husband, go to the wife and ask her why, she might surprise you with explanation. Most wives who end up with another man do have reason.

Answer 2

Stop Cheating with Another Woman's ManI honestly can not figure out why a mistress would want to tell the wife she is cheating with her husband, unless she thinks it might sway the odds in her favor that the wife would leave the husband. The best thing for you to do is to shop cheating with someone else's man and go out and find a man who is not married. To answer your question directly, NO, you should not say anything to the wife, especially if you hope to gain the husband from telling her.

YES! Yes you should tell her. It will free you from him and hopefully the wife will free herself as well.

Answer 3

Definately. It is MUCH better to tell her that you've cheated than for her to find out through someone else or something else. Take Tiger Woods for example... All of his hard work of being a husband went down the drain because of his decisions. Realize you can't change the past, but you can change the future.

Answer 4

Depending on how well you know her. Maybe try to stir something up, like, "Did you hear the awful things Mary Lou said about Frank (the husband)?" Of course, she could take this differently: 1) she could reply, "You don't say?" and not do anything about it, or 2) she could say the same thing but DO something about it, or 3) she could say, "Oh, Martha, how COULD you ever doubt Frank?" and hate you forever. If you're prepared to risk your acquaintance with her, however strong/large, then yes, she deserves to know and be told by someone trustworthy, even if she decides not to doubt her devious Frank.

You go to her husband and say look, i know you're cheating on her. If you don't stop and work things out with your wife I'm telling her the truth. I saw it on Oprah once. A guy who used to cheat said that his girlfriends best friend said that to him so he stopped cheating. It's a good thing to do. Plus, you don't have to put your friendship in jeopardy.

Answer 5

If she is a true friend, you should not tell her husband that she is cheating. You should do everything you can to help her keep it a secret from her husband, including lying for her. Real friends are a rarity.

Answer 6

Yes, definitely. If you don't tell, you are covering an immoral act and thus make yourself guilty. However report the facts only as you have wittnessed them and not your interpretation of what happened. If you only know this from someone else then don't tell without checking the credibility of the source first.

Answer 7

Anytime there is a situation of an unfaithful partner, it can be a tremendous source of stress. When coupled with the fact that one knows the spouse of the other party, this can make things incredibly complicated and uncomfortable. Under normal circumstances, revealing infidelity can irrevocably change the lives of not only yourself, but all of those involved.

In general, this question requires you to make a judgment call, based on your character, experience, and morals. There are more factors to consider than could be discussed on this page, within the constraints of using a reasonable amount of space to type. There are several things which you can consider, however, when attempting to wrestle with this particular question.

One of the first things to consider is the other couple's relationship. While unlikely, it is possible they have an open relationship, and therefore there's no "infidelity" on their end took place. That would not, however, excuse your own spouse of any responsibility or errors committed or change how you approach the problem from your end. All this would do is establish that the other parties involved may express sympathy towards harm they caused you, but since they would not consider it "cheating", then their own relationship may not change in any way.

The second item you could consider is the effect of revealing the affair. If the other husband believes his wife is a faithful and dutiful woman, telling him about the affair would most certainly change his outlook towards his wife and their marriage. This could possibly trigger marriage counseling, a temporary separation, or even divorce. On the other hand, it is also possible he suspects or even knows already about the affair. Your revelations may only hasten whatever process is taking place.

In general, it is up to you and your good judgment. You can ask yourself important questions, such as "Would I want someone to tell me?", or "How would I feel if someone knew this was going on, and they -did not- tell me about it?". You should consider the view of the other party, and consider how telling and not telling them about the event would effect them. Consider what you would feel and think, if you were the one being left in the dark on the matter.

In the end, it only comes down to what you, as an individual, feel is best and can live with after having made a decision.

Answer 8

Yes. Trust is the biggest factor in a relationship, come clean. But dont entirely go on my word, trust your instincts.

It is nice to see that you are considering telling her. It depends entirely on how you think she will take it. She could see it as good that you told her if you apologize and try to act like you are ashamed, however she may just divorce you. If she is the type of person that would forgive you then you should tell her. You have to imagine as if she found out, how would she act if you hadnt told her and she found out, is that worse than how she would react if you told her, Also is either one of those two worth the possibility she might not find out.

Answer 9

No, leave her out of it. Just enjoy the sex, he will eventually break it off and you will be left with the memories of good sex.