What advice would you offer to a 17 year old pregnant teen who is being kicked out of the house and not permitted to marry her 16 year old boyfriend?

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First, give the baby a chance at life and let a loving family adopt your baby. It will be difficult, but it will be the best for you and your baby. You'll have a chance to change your life for the better, and the baby will have a chance to grow up in an environment where people can afford to raise him/her.

Adopting couples often pay for your housing and for all medical expenses during the remainder of the pregnancy.

After the baby is born, take control of your life, get an education and learn to keep from getting pregnant again.

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do you want to marry him? Are you sure, you are young to have a baby, do you understand all your responsibility to the baby, you must give the baby more than 100% of your time, your boyfriend will get way less time, will he get jealous of the baby, does he have a temper or hit you? How are his parents, will they help. What will you and he be giving up in order to care for the baby? Will he regret that he won't have a football career etc. Will you regret that you will have to give up some dreams.

I think there are places for unwed mothers, I know welfare will help you, but i don't know about welfare after a baby is born, You would not want to stay on welfare would you....

These are some cold facts but you have to understand them, all adults know this, its a cold world out there, sometimes you get dealt a bad hand and you just have to know how to play it.

What will your plans be if you keep the baby, stay at home with baby, is the father rich, have a good job? If not you will have to go on welfare, and that is not a lot of money, and its a place you do not want to be.

Do you have health insurance, can you afford a place to live, .can you keep up schooling, can you get a sitter for free if you have to work, and if you do not have some type of schooling like knowing how to type or use a computer, or have the knack of selling products that produce a high commission (like a car), if you don't have much experience you will be forced to take a low paying job (which you will work your butt off for minimum wage!!)

You must think of the baby's well being now, the baby must come first, before you and your boyfriend.

There are young couples who make it, not alot, take a look at some of your friends or relatives who got married young and had a child, how are they doing? Its a hard place you are at, but welfare will help you, so go to them, or planned parenthood, will your boyfriend go there with you? if he don't, don't bother to marry him!!!!!!!!!!

You gotta grow up fast now, don't rush into a decision of marriage right now, think of the baby and yourself.

There is adoption, don't go the abortion route, you may not be able to live with that decision, Maybe you will. I am not pro or for abortion, I believe its a womans right to choose, but that is your decision, go to welfare or planned parent hood, I'm sure they will help you, go yourself if you have to and GO NOW!!!!!!!!!

You and your boyfriend may find out down the road you don't really love one another, what you think is love may not be so.

I hope this helps you some, I didn't think I'd find this issue on this type of board. I wish I knew where you were so I could talk to you, but you can't put personal info on these boards, and I'm sure other people will make terrible comments about my answers, do not give your name or telephone# to anyone on the internet, they will claim to help you but they will only exploit you and take advantage of you, so go to planned parenthood or welfare, don't do anything drastic.

And my own comment to you, is you better take more care of yourself, and use some type of Birth Control in the future, you don't ever want to be in this situation again!!!!!!!!!! There are plenty of couples who cannot have children and are praying for a child now.

Take care my friend, and go to the places I mentioned TOMMORROW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BYE

Answer - There's a two fold problem here.

(06/13/09) Your child deserves an intact family, but how long will it remain intact? Do you want to gamble with the chances you will end alone with the child, or that you give the child to the father and leave? The chances of this are substantial. Over 85% of all divorces involve people who married or lived together prior to age 24.

Biologically, this is when females reach full mature on the physical, emotional, and hormonal levels. At this point, a woman is fully prepared to have and handle children, as well as a male that is still not fully mature.

Males don't reach full physical and hormonal maturity until age 30. This is also when they reach their peak emotional maturity, but not to the point of being fully independent. Half of the male emotional health comes from a woman. The biochemical frequency range of the male brain adjusts itself to match that of the female, developing an emotional symbiotic relationship.

Couples who begin cohabiting and/or get married prior to age 24 can find themselves drawing away from each other as each reaches full maturity. Their whole view of the world, and each other, changes. This doesn't happen to all couples, but clearly it is a factor in most relationship breakdowns.

Rutgers University Study - Should We Live Together?

Cohabiting couples breakup three times more than married couples. Cohabiting couples that later marry have a 46% higher rate of divorce than those who did not cohabit prior to marriage. See Link Below

Ask that question to my mother. Only she was younger. My mother was 14 years old when she got pregnant with me. I was born on her 15th birthday. My father was 18. She was kicked out of the house, left on her own. Although my dad stuck around, he was with several other girls until the time they married 2 months before my birth. Even them I have my suspicions. They have been together over 17 years. I am going on my 17th birthday.. It never happens like this. Very luckt senario. All I can say is Girl! Pray and Pray hard! Everything will be ok.. Take care of your child. Its a blessing.. I would give anything to be a mother, but I haven't found a decent guy. Nor have I been permitted to become sexually involved with a guy. (Thank God, they haven't been the 'Dad' type!) Just have faith. =]