What are some tips to help you and your husband become closer?

Answer 1

Communication is the key word here. You have to sit and talk and find out what the other wants or needs in life and then both of you have to strive for that.

Going on a holiday if you can afford it for at least a week is a good choice and helps you both relax. Don't visit friends, but go somewhere where there is peace and quiet (romantic) yet there is some night life to enjoy as well. Get out and dance until your feet ache; have some drinks and so what if you have a little too many. Sometimes going back in time and forgetting all your responsibilities and just being a kid again is the best medicine ever.

Keep your house active at least every other weekend. Have friends over for an evening or go to their place. My husband and I have friends of all ages and we all get along and the young keep us on our toes and feeling young, and the people our own ages are interesting to talk too as are senior citizens.

Women have to take the bull by the horns and just get the action going. You both need a change of scenery (together of course.)

Good luck Marcy

Answer

These are all excellent ideas and well worth pursuing. But if you want your man to feel closer to you, keep in mind that men make friends by doing things together and women make friends by sharing themselves with each other. I used to spend hours and hours with a couple of guys working on our old race car. (My wife began to feel abandoned, but was smart enough not to demand that I choose between my friends and her. I eventually sold the car to pay for a room addition.) I used to love to do home projects with my wife and I working together. We traveled well together. We put on a great back yard Bar-B-Q. Every time we did something together, we got closer. Every time she said, "We gotta talk", I knew I was in trouble. But she knew that as soon as we did something together, she couldn't shut me up. It worked real well for us.