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What are ways that the abuser and abusee can make the relationship work after confronting the abuse?
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∙ 15y ago
If the abuse continues - you cannot make the relationship work. You both need to get counseling, separate and together. If the abuse doesn't stop, you need to get out of the relationship. It will probably be a long hard "journey", but if you are both willing to work on it, you will make it through. "What are ways that the abuser and abusee can make the relationship work after confronting the abuse?" Open & Honest discussion.
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What is an abusee?
An abusee is a person who is physically abused by someone.
Why does the abuser make the nonabuser think that if they ended the relationship it would not bother them?
Control is a major issue inside abusive relationships. The abused usually become the abusers, thus they know how it feels to be minimized. In many situations, fear builds up within the relationship between the abuser and abusee. Because of the fear, the abusee tends to deal with dependancy issues. If the abusee feels like they are unneeded they will either (a) say "okay then, bye." or (b) try to make themselves needed, therefore cling to the relationship. Abusers are very needy people themselves. Personal advice: -If the abuse comes from an addiction (alcoholism, drug use, etc), help the person into some kind of recovery program -If it is a high school relationship, try to find someone else. As a teenager, such a relationship can damage you for good. -If the abuse has gone on for as long as you can remember, get out as fast as you can. It's NOT healthy, excusable, or acceptable in anyway.
What makes people vulnerable to abuse and the power relationship between the abuser and the victim?
the abuser is called sadist & the victim is called masochist.
How do you confront abusers?
Abuse comes in many ways; it can be both emotional and psychological. As a victim dealing with abuse, the best way is to set boundaries and realize you alone cannot change the abuser. The best way to handle it is to set boundaries, understand that it is your reactions that you can really change, and get professional help if problem escalates. Confronting an abuser as an outsider may or may not be the best idea; they may take as an attack and direct their anger at you. If it is indeed physical abuse, call authorities! There are laws against physical abuse, but not emotional abuse.
If your an emotional abuser what causes them to leave?
the victim or the abuser? emotional abuse cuts deeper than physical abuse. it has to do with manipulation. though emotional abuse and physical abuse ususally go hand in hand.
Does substance abuse intervention increase the abuser's odds of staying clean?
Yes, it does. In all cases, the substance abuse intervention is conducted to inform the abuser of the danger and guide the abuser out of whatever form of substance abuse he/she is using. This on a whole gives the abuser moral and medical support, increasing the odds of staying clean.
How does dominance cause abuse in a relationship?
The desire to dominate, and frustration when it doesn't work, is the immediate cause of most abuse. The underlying causes are emotional problems that will only get worse if untreated. Either get the abuser into an effective program, or get out of there.
What happens when an emotional abuser and controller get in a relationship with another controller?
The relationship becomes sour, instead of face to face abuse they tend to annoy one another in private e.g. not lifting the seat up.
Can you trust an abuser to honor agreements?
Generally , no you cannot. An abuser by nature is not trustworthy. When someone abuses you, they tell you right there that you are less. They lie and blame to make you think that you are responsible for the abuse- you made them do it. They seem to be able to treat everyone else, including strangers, better than you. Abuse is a vicious cycle. The abuser may mask the problem for a while and get you to feel comfortable in the relationship but the cycle will always kick in again because the reason they abuse is always there in their own head. Remember that ab abuser must always try to control, intimidate and manipulate you so they will agree to anything just to fool you into staying in the relationship. You need to seek professional advice to help you understand why you accept that kind of treatment and how you can move on with your life without the abuser.
Why would a abuser live with the first person he meets after you end the relationship with him?
Because he is a user and needs a new "victim" to abuse to make himself feel superior again.
What is a common form of abuse where the abuser tries to keep the abused from family and friends?
domestic abuse or violence
Will an abuser be nicer to his girlfriend if she does everything he wants?
Absolutely not! If he sees that she'll tolerate it, then he'll keep abusing her as a means of keeping her in line. The best thing she can do is distance herself and find someone else. You sound young, so let me tell ya, he's not worth it! No man is worth it! No, he will not. Doing what an abuser wants only prolongs the abuse in the same way that giving drugs to an addict only prolongs the addiction. Abuse is not the opposite of nice. Neither is it caused by not getting what he wants. Abuse is about control and domination coupled with the pleasure derived by them. The victim of abuse must realize that there is no relationship. There is only the illusion of a relationship. She is not his girl-"friend". For the abuser, the abused is not really a "person" in the normal sense of the word. As long as this false-relationship continues, there will be no solution. The only way out of the abuse is terminate contact and seek protection. Pastor Lopez
