What do you do to get over the pain when your husband of 14 years says he needs space and moves out and then you find out he is seeing someone else that he claims to love?

Answer 1

What do you do? Well, you need some professional help to begin with. If possible you need to go immediately to an independent source. A professional counseler would be very wise. You need to interact with a skilled, trained professional who can learn the necessary and critical information needed in order to make an intelligent recommendation for your own personal persona. I order you to do this! Being of Germanic descent I am allowed to do this. Really, you must seek interaction with a professional in a face to face manner.

Be open and be honest. Be prepared to make some tuff choices and to accept critical but constructive guidance! Vindication of what you already know is a great help for your well being. Motivation to rebuild your life and maybe your own self is possible with proper help. Just look up counseling and make some calls.

Hell Girl, this isn't a disaster, it's an opportunity! Change your mind set and look at the world anew! You are free to make the rest of your life whatever you choose! Stop letting social morayes tell you what a woman must or should be. Like married! That is old school nonsense. This is your life, your one and only life. Ok, your hurt. That's understandable, but there are plenty more jackasses out there to hurt you some more. Some are kinda cute so its kinda worth it at times, but that's another story. Get up off the damn floor will you! Dust your self off and get back into the fight. Gee wize, this is not the end of the world and its not worth the gun powder it would take to blow it up! You need a new view. I hope I am helping with that.

I can tell you these things because, surprise! I am a man, well sort of anyway, but that's neither here nor there. I have never been married and never will be. I do not understand it and know of only two or three couples who have ever been married and lived their lives together in love. In fact, come to think of it, two of those are gay. The other is my little brother and his wife.

I don't believe in everlasting love, except for pets, and when I do see it I am amazed. I do not belive in forever and forever. Things change, we all change.

If, after a time, you want to chance meeting another jackass...and why...but that's your issue, if you do don't try to find him at work, through friends, at church functions, or any place but one. A professional match making company. Yea, I know...not too romatic, but realistic. They will utilize accepted methods of personaity profiling, like a "Myers, Briggs, Jung Test" and this is something your unlikely to find being employed by your co-workers, or other would be match makers. Ask the suggested Professional Counseler about what to look for if you feel you must have companionship.

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