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What should you do if you think your good friend is attracted to your husband?
- Get a new friend. I know it's hard, but she will use everything she knows against you to get to him.
- Be polite but to the point. The next time she makes an inappropriate comment to your husband, smile sweetly and say, "It's too bad you have to practice flirting with Mike because you can't find a man." I think your husband should at least not respond to the comments, and avoid her somewhat.
- Maybe she is attracted to him but has not and would not act on her feelings because of your friendship. Insulting her would drive a wedge between you and could encourage her to go after your husband. It's common for people to feel attracted to people who are unavailable, and most people don't hide their feelings as well as they think they can. Give her and your husband the benefit of the doubt. If you are mean and jealous, you may lose both your friend and your husband. If she is attracted to him it's all the more reason to speak up and say something. She obviously is saying what she wants without regarding her friendship to her friends. Don't give her and your husband the benefit of the doubt and give them a chance to pursue what deeper feelings they could have. Nip it in the bud. She doesn't sound like a friend. I think men want women to fight for them.
- Confront her before it gets out of hand.
- You need to lay down the law. Especially if, like in my situation, the friend is known to have slept with other friends' boyfriends and ex-boyfriends. Easier said than done, though. For the fear of losing the friendship, I haven't brought myself to bring it up to her, but perhaps the friendship isn't worth saving.
- If she is a good friend, she will understand what "boundaries" mean. You need to establish these to protect your family - as I have stated in a previous.
- Nothing. Be flattered. It is a compliment, of sorts. Would you rather she thought your husband was a loser? What you seemed to be worried about has nothing to do with anyone else and everything to do with how your husband handles it and of course, how you handle it; which, so far is not going very well.
- If you think your good friend is attracted to your husband, then obviously she isn't your friend. A friend wouldn't do something like that EVER! You can think someone is attractive, but you certainly don't act on that and if this person is a friend of yours, you certainly don't act on him either. A person who I thought was a friend mine, was attracted to my husband. She answered her door with only a sexy nightgown on after she had her daughter call my daughter and invite her over to spend the night. My "good friend" knew I was working that night, and knew my husband would be the one bringing our daughter over. I guess she tried to pull one over on me. Needless to say, my husband told me what she did, and what she was wearing, and so forth. She wasn't my friend after that, and I have so enjoyed telling others this story about her.
- I would end the friendship.
- If you think your friend is attracted to your husband, than she really isn't a friend. I would keep her away from your husband. If you still want her as a friend keep her away from him and tell her he doesn't like her around all the time. Say something that will make her think he isn't attracted to her and that he doesn't want to be around her.
- You really don't have to worry if your friend is attracted to your husband. Why not if he's hot ? Wouldn't any red blooded woman think so? Why is it different because she's your friend? If she oversteps the mark by being overly flirtatious and with no regard for your feelings then yes, speak up on the spot that you won't tolerate it, but that may never happen if you just don't overreact. The only thing you have to worry about is if he is attracted to her. If so, and it's not your imagination then you have a reason to worry.
- Sit back and take a deep breathe and really look at why you feel like this way. Is she's flirting with him overtly and is he enjoying it? Does she make comments to you like she wishes she'd have a guy like him? Does she touch him when she's talking to him? I shutter to think that you think this is one sided only because normally someone has to get signals from another that this behavior is acceptable. There is no harm in your friend finding your husband attractive that should be a compliment to both of you but if she is making you uncomfortable or your husband doesn't seem to mind then maybe you should let her know in a "friendly" way exactly what it is that you notice and see what she says. If she's your friend she will appreciate your honestly and make the adjustments. Just don't come out and blurt that you think she 'wants' your man; say something like 'Hey, I want to talk to you about something that is bothering me" "Sometimes when you do _____or ______ It makes me a little uncomfortable because we are friends and I think there are certain boundaries or lines we just don't do.' Ask your husband too if he notices and see what he says. If he says it doesn't bother him then he needs to adjust that and not lead her on.
- Pay attention and watch body language. Go with your gut feeling. Confront your friend if you believe it to be true and let her know you're wise to it. I didn't and paid the price for it. Trust yourself; your instincts are probably right. Of course this is assuming that you're not an overly or abnormally suspicious or jealous person. My best friend and husband ended up having a year long affair until I caught them in the act. Body language and where people's eyes linger tell everything their mouths don't say. Read up on body language.
Another answer: You don't say why you think this way, but if its true, PLEASE SPEAK UP. It happens all the time the time that a girlfriend befriends a husband and next thing you know they are in a relationship and the wife gets dumped. Do not be ashamed of how you feel. It may be nothing, but you will have peace of mind if you get it off your chest. Make her visits to your home few and far between. Even the Bible lets us know this is a good idea. Proverbs 25: 17 "Rarely set your foot in your neighbors house, so that he does not get tired of you and hate you."
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That may well depend on the type of things that you and our friend are able to discuss. If this sort of thing can be discussed by you the first step is to find out your …friends attitude towards that sort of feelings. If you can find that out then it becomes a matter for your judgment to bring it up or not.
If you trust him, why shouldn't he? If you don't trust him, it isn't going to make any difference if his women friends are married or not.
The most simplistic way is to take one at a time (not to have a mop effect) and ask them what has happened to make them feel you have done someting wrong. Ask for factcs a…nd as they speak listen to what they say. If these facts are incorrect correct them with edidence if you can
What should you do if your good friend is cheating on her husband who is your husband's good friend?
Answer About all you can do is have a heart-to-heart with your girlfriend and tell her you don't like what she's up too. If she ignores you then you should… tell her you don't want to see her right now until she gets her life turned around because she is putting you in a very awkward position. Cheating is cheap! It's cruel what she is doing. If she doesn't want to be with her husband and feels the need to be with someone else she should have the guts to at least be honest with her husband and separate for a period of time or file for divorce. What she is doing is having her cake and eating it too. If you stand by and watch this you are an enabler. Good friends stick together, but they are also honest with each other and sometimes we all need a good thump on the head. Have that talk (in private) with your girlfriend. Ask her why she feels the need to cheat on her husband. It doesn't really matter what excuse she gives it's just that ... an excuse, and she wants it all ... her husband and the new guy. I wouldn't tell her husband at this point in time because you'll end up the loser no matter which way you go. Good luck Marcy
dump his sorry ass
The husband should talk to the friend. If he doesn't - the husband needs to go too because he's just as abusive if he's allowing it.
This might work. Most people aren't good liars. Even I think I can lie my way out of anything, but I feel the obligation to be honest so this would nail me if i ever cheated…. Look at your husband's face and when he's looking back at you, ask him if he's cheating on you. If he hesitates at all, I'd say he's cheating. Or you can simply catch him in a lie. If he's lying, he's most likely covering something up... but it could be a surprise for your birthday or something, so don't let me make you think too pessimistically. ;- ) Good Luck!
That truly depends on what they have left together after divorce. If primarily their relationship was based on friendship they should stay friends. The fact that a… piece of their universe (even if an important one) didn't work out doesn't mean they can't still be friends if they feel confortable with the idea.
Narcissists don't react well when you tell them they are narcissists. A psychologist once told me that narcissists are the most difficult patients to treat. Answer 2…: Culture of Narcissism, by Christopher Lasch ,purchase this for your husband. Is he true to the book? If you appoach him with being narcissist will he care.
Caring, loving, compassionate, and always there for you. You should be the same towards them.
You should try and talk to her/him, maybe buy them a soda or give them a chocolate bar. Don't go all huffy on them because then they WILL hate you, and that's not good. If you… are fighting almost all the time, then maybe you should take a break from each other, hang out with other people, but make sure that you tell them that you are taking a break or they might think that there is something wrong with you. Try not to keep secrets or deliberately provoke them, because bitchiness (sorry for the language) spells trouble. I hope this helped you, because I'm just a 12 year old girl in Year 7 whose BFF hates her. I found this, and saw the answer *hate her back*. That's why I'm writing this, because hating IS NOT the answer!
Is He Really Attracted? So you think that your husband is attracted to your friend? And you wonder whether this attraction can grow into a threat to your own relati…onship? On top of it, without you realizng it, your behavior towards your husband might have changed already? Did you ever consider asking him? This can be done with an easy questiion or statement. "You really like "So and so?" What is so difficult about this? I can tell you this: you are suspicious and you do not want to voice your suspicion. So you do not ask. This could be the beginning of the beaking up of your relationship. Isn't easier to ask in an inoffensive way than to let the matter stew in your head? Read more about relationships in the book recommendation #2 and #6 on my BIo Page.
Is it appropriate for a wife to have several male friends that husband does not know about and should you tell husband She doesn't think she is doing anything wrong as no sex is involved her claim?
Answer Answer I have lady friends and I'm married, but the difference between you and I is that my wife knows my lady friends and she also knows I don't sleep with… them. Stay out of it. It is not your place to squeal on the wife.
Are you interested in staying with a man who disregards you like that? If you are, politely tell him that you know what's going on and you'll let it continue but he should be …honest with you from now on. If not, let him find out when he is served with the divorce papers! If children are involved, your situation is a whole lot trickier but you didn't mention any so I'm hoping that it's just you two involved in this.
You (or I) are not qualified to deal with someone who is suicidal. If someone you know is thinking of suicide, you need to call Emergency Services. These people are trained to… handle people in crisis, and they can get your friend the help he or she needs. Once your friend gets to a good hospital, doctors can soon get him or her back to feeling more like their old self and not so hopeless. Another approach:From your question, it sounds like you've already opened a dialogue with your friend about their thoughts in suicide. That's great! Depression goes hand in hand with isolation, and that you're talking about it with them is a very positive step. Continue the talks. Be open and warm. And you might consider getting THEM to initiate calls for counselling -- not necessarily with EMS either. There are many resources for suicide and depression counselling; you might discuss these together. If the subject is in imminent danger of hurting themselves or another, it's appropriate to bring community services into the picture. But if the danger is not immediate, getting them to initiate communications with therapy is most effective. One last thought: we have a tendency to stand well back and disassociate from our friends if they discuss suicide. It's a pretty normal response as suicide is terrifying and we don't want to do the wrong thing. I would however suggest that, if they were your friend in better days, you might still want to try and keep that friendship close. If you can ease the isolation, you can help to fix the problem.
What should you do with friend who thinks that you are having an affair with her boyfriend or husband?
Confront him/her and tell the truth, if you are or aren't having a(n) affair with her boyfried/husband/fiance.