What should you do if your girlfriend of 4 years asked for space but you are having a hard time and is space a bad thing?

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ur faceAnswerIf she is not dealing with some personal issue where she needs some time to handle it, like a death in the family or an illness or anything like that. If her reason is soley as a result of your relationship with her, then I would say its not a good sign. Reguardless of what anyone says about "needing some space", its usually to get away from the other person to figure out if that is who they really want to be with. I know in part because I have asked "For space" twice from two of my X's and both times I knew that things between us were not heading where I needed them to be. What can you do about it? Nothing really, you can never "force" anyone to stay you. So give her space. If your meant to be together, she will be back. If not, then she wont. But one thing is for absolutley sure, if you smother her when she has asked for space, you will seem desperate and needy in her eyes, and that is guarenteed to push her farther and farther away. AnswerWhy would she ask for space? To me that means she is pulling away. I only know this because this has happened to me too. AnswerI agree. my ex asked for the same thing after 7 years. Why does she need space? For me it turn out that was her excuse to end our relationship. She was hanging out with some other guy while I was 600 miles away in school. I wouls ask her to have a serious conversation. She is mature, I hope, to sit down and let you know what's going on. My ex wasn't mature enough to do so. She wasn't mature enough to look me in the eyes and tell me it was over. I got an email instead. I hope it's not serious. Best of luck.

to be fare, first you need to stop and observe a little closer. there are times I'm sure we are all guilty of being a little selfish. you need to first address any change in your own behaviour occurring that may have contributed to your partners request for space. perhaps your partner feels they just aren't getting nowhere in the relationship for some reason or another. or is going through a phase where she herself is experiencing some change. it can easily be mis read when there are strong emotions involved, and if not paid attention to, could well be the starting of your relationship to breakedown. my only advice would be,don't stop talkin,that's the only way you gonna know for sure. don't argue with what you hear if you don't like what's being said' listen and take it in,you take time to make sure you understand what is happening, it may well save your relationship. all the best. stay safe.