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It's likely that people who are being abused in a relationship feel guilty for a variety of reasons, and could benefit from support to evalutate the sources of guilt and reasons for remaining in that relationship. Please know that NO ONE ever deserves to be abused and although it may seem difficult to leave an abusive relationship, your life may depend on it - and so do your children's (if applicable) if they are experiencing abuse at the hands of the abuser or by witnessing your abuse - don't underestimate just how much your children are affected by this and will surely affect them for the rest of their lives. Most professionals realize that the abuser may likely have not always been abusive and has some positive qualities to which you were initially attracted, but despite having good qualities and having good days, it is never okay for someone to abuse another person. Abuse never gets better on it's own or just goes away, in fact, it gets worse over time, like a fire that starts out small and gradually spreads to ruin an entire building, abuse is a flammable foundation. Please respect yourself enough, even if you have lost your self-respect, to get out of a situation that leads you to feeling guilty and start working to repair the damage and pain.
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∙ 14y ago
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∙ 16y agoAnyone who would have that much hatred and violence towards another human being who is willing to stay by their side is truly very hateful of themself. It's painfully obvious to the victim that this person hates themself and is not well. In addition, many times people who are abused are kind hearted folks who have too much patience and understanding and stay trying to "fix" the abuser. They see much more so the "hurt" in the abuser which is the core of the problem instead of how much they're suffering from the abuse.
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How do you make an abuser regret hurting you?
Unfortunately you cannot always make that happen. You cannot force someone to feel something that they don't feel. You can express the pain you felt physically and emotionally during the abuse. But that is about it. You cannot force someone to feel sorry for something if they aren't sorry. It would make a lot of things easier if you could though but it is just something that your abuser will have to figure out for him/her self.
Was your abuser really that bad if you feel worse without him?
Abusers are bad. Period. It is common for someone who has been abused to feel lonely when the abuser becomes absent, but it is because of the stress of change. If you feel yourself running back to your abuser, get help. The situation will only escalate otherwise.
Is it normal for a victim to feel the need to win the fight with an abuser at all costs just as the abuser does with his victim?
loseing always sucks.. however depending on the type of fight sometimes loseing is winning...take a step back and focus on the bigger picture..
Why does he always say its your fault?
he's an abuser get out now!
Is it OK to sometimes regret the decision to leave the abuser?
Regret is a feeling. If you feel regret, and you probably will sometimes, you have no real control over that. You can repress a feeling but you cannot change it. It is always ok to feel whatever you really feel, even when it would be a bad idea to act on the feeling. We often tend to idealize the past, feel nostalgic, forget the abuser's bad traits and offending conduct and remember the "good old times".
Is it good to say sorry to the girlfriend?
It is always good to say "I'm Sorry" to anyone that you have done wrong regardless of how you feel about the situation.
Will my boyfriend be an abuser if he yells at his mom?
Answer:The Boyfriend might become an abuser, but in the long run he will learn from his mistakes and i believe no, he will not become an abuser, if you feel like your being abused walk away =3
Can you trust an abuser to honor agreements?
Generally , no you cannot. An abuser by nature is not trustworthy. When someone abuses you, they tell you right there that you are less. They lie and blame to make you think that you are responsible for the abuse- you made them do it. They seem to be able to treat everyone else, including strangers, better than you. Abuse is a vicious cycle. The abuser may mask the problem for a while and get you to feel comfortable in the relationship but the cycle will always kick in again because the reason they abuse is always there in their own head. Remember that ab abuser must always try to control, intimidate and manipulate you so they will agree to anything just to fool you into staying in the relationship. You need to seek professional advice to help you understand why you accept that kind of treatment and how you can move on with your life without the abuser.
Is a verbal abuser considered a sociopath?
sometimes a verbal abuser can be consider a sociopath they get involve and like the dirty talk and begin to make them feel and enjoy group talk that is abusive.
If you unintentionally make your spouse afraid one time during an argument Should you be labelled an abuser considering it was not intended and an Abuser knowingly repeats his Abusive ways?
Well if its UNintended, then no it doesn't make you a abuser. The abuser continues his abusive ways even after it's been brought up to him or her. Just be sure to talk to your spouse about this problem. Let them know that you are sorry for what you did and you did not mean to do it.
Explain how God forgives a sexual abuser who stop but was once a victim?
if the abuser is genuinely sorry for what he has done, admitted his wrong to both the victim and to god and has taken genuine steps to repent.however, if the abuser was once a victim, in y opinion, it makes the situation worse, as the abuser should be fully aware of the dammge he/she has done.I was violently raped, but i have no desire to abuse another human being.
What effect does abuse have on the victims?
Well firstly the victim would often feel scared around their partner and would always be on-edge around them, secondly the victim would always carry a lack of trust against the abuser and these things are needed for a good healthy relationship.
