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Why would someone who has gotten out of an abusive relationship continue to see her abuser?
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∙ 15y ago
I would love to know the answer to that too. I think it is because they don't think they are strong enough to be without that person. That is part of the abuse the abuser uses. It takes two to tango - and an equal number to sustain a long-term abusive relationship. The abuser and the abused form a bond, a dynamic, and a dependence. Expressions such as "shared psychosis", "follies a deux" and the "Stockholm Syndrome" capture facets - two of a myriad - of this danse macabre. It often ends fatally. It is always an excruciatingly painful affair.
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Move out and continue the relationship?
do not continue an abusive relationship once you are strong enough to leave... my daughter divorced her emotionally abusive husband who molested her children,,, in less then 3 months she is seeing the pediphile again and isolateing herself from her family and forcing the children to be with this man again... if you go back into an abusive relationship of any kind your the same as the abuser, mayber even worse... do not be a fool or victimize your self again... don't do it.............................
What is the primary motive of the abuser in an abusive relationship?
For the most part, those that show abusive behavior are reflectant of how they were treated during their childhood. Thus abusive behavior as adults is not only satisfactory because the abuser in a twisted way can identify with the abused, but also is a show of dominance and superiority for someone who, for the majority of their life as a child, were inferior to their caregivers.
Is your boyfriend abusive?
Many BFs, or boyfriends, are not abusive. If a boyfriend is abusive, the girl should leave the relationship and file charges. Do not keep going back to an abuser.
Can get an answer from an abuser if you ask them reason for their abusive nature?
No, because if they are still being abusive, they see the world from another perspective. If you are expecting that this will happen or that you can convince someone that they are abusive, chances are that you won't see it happen. About all you can do is to call them on their behavior, saying how it makes you feel. A good book is Patricia Evan's The Abusive Relationship.
Why does a woman reconcile after three attempts to leave an abusive relationship?
Because the abuser makes the victim feel like they are and will be nothing without them. Its all about brainwashing, and making the victim fell dependant upon the abuser. No one should EVER stay in an abusive relationship, not even for the kids. That is the worst mistake someone could make. Abuser prey on the weak minded, however no one has to be weak minded, they ust have to learn how to survive on their own, and surviving on your own is possible.
Why do abusive relationships exist?
It exist because the person being hurt stays in the relationship thinking the abuser will stop. Face reality this person has issues and they will not just up and change. I would advise anyone who is in an abusive relationship whether physical,emotional or verbal get out while you still can, because the abuser is not going to change magically.
What is a good attention getter for an abusive relationship?
call the cops on the abuser, tell the abuser, and when he/she make just stares at you laugh like a maniac. You will be the center of attention in ur bf/gfs eyes.
As a professional person what advise should you give to someone suffering any type of abuse?
this is a very serious issue. some people who are in an abusive relationship like to cover up for the abuser saying, "its not their fault, they have anger problems, it doesn't hurt", things like that. they should remove themselves from that relationship.
Is it normal for someone who has been abused to be obsessively reading books on abusive men or looking at abuse websites trying to find that one thing that will put the abuser in his place?
It might be necessary to get the person in for therapy. If nothing else, the therapist might be able to get the abused person to leave the abusive relationship and be a little less obsessive.
What options does a victim have who is desperate to get their abuser into an abuser program but since the abuse is purely emotional it can't be court mandated?
In this case, you be the judge. Mental abuse is just the same as physical absuse. You might want to seek help or counseling to decide if this is a relationship you would like to continue. I used to be in a mentally abusive relationship, and sometimes I felt like I'd rather be hit than hear those harsh words. If you can relate, please think about it. I am so much more happy now that I am out of that relationship.
Should at least 1 appointment be made with an abuser program against an abuser's will if that's what's best for the family?
Yes, clearly the abusive family member wouldn't willingly attend something intended to correct his/her abusive behavior I they are indeed abusive.
Should a woman stay in a verbally abusive relationship?
Nope. Because she she might get hurt even more. And the abuser might think it is ok to hurt them because they won't mind. Once they hit you, you should get out of that relationship.
