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You dont really know if you are in a abusive relationship because he do try to put you in control but when he hit you he just pull your hair or something but you dont think he is really abusive help?
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∙ 16y ago
If he touches you in any other matter than a comforting or intimate wanted way then he is physically abusing you and yes this is a abusive relationship that can progressively get worse if you are already allowing him to do what he is doing at this point. When he tries to let you be in control of anything that is his way of trying to shift his guilt to you and to blame you again abusive emotionally. You must do what is best for yourself and get out of the relationship as soon as possible. do not ever let a man put his hands on you in a violent way because it will more than likely lead to worse things, so talk to him and if it doesn't stop, then he's not worth it and get out!
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Leaving as way to gain control in a abusive relationship?
Answer Leaving to gain control in an abusive relationship won't help you much. You will never gain control over a person who is mentally sick by leaving him or her. This person needs help and either you stand by them while they get professional help or you leave because you feel it's the thing to do. Don't leave for all the wrong reasons and later regret your move, if you have children and this person won't go for help, then leave as fast as you can because your children will eventually be affected by your choice to stay in an abusive relationship. Good luck
Type of relationship that can become abusive?
I am sure there are lots of ways a normal relationship can become abusive but there is one that sticks in my mind: A serious relationship. It is because if you are mainly the girl in a relationship (it is mostly the girl playing the victim and the guy playing the abuser) you are more into love than he is so therefore you push yourself into that serious relationship. As he knows you pushed yourself into the relationship he thinks he can control you now and since he knows it is serious he thinks that you won't run away because you love him.
The one thing Gemini fears most in a relationship.?
something broke because they aspire to fix ad recreate, and hen something breaks in a relationship o suddenly changes it frightens them because cannot control it.
Why would emotionally abusive boyfriend suddenly end the relationship when before he always got upset afterwards and wanted me back?
to control you. abusers want total control
Will a verbal abusive woman continue to abuse in each relationship?
Generally a verbally abusive woman has control issues and she will carry them into most relationships. However, there are a few women that are verbally abusive to one or more men, but may meet a man that she is not verbally abusive to as they are better suited for each other.
Why do abusive men feel the need to keep you off balance?
Because if you're unable to fend for yourself, their power is guaranteed. Nasty, isn't it? It's easier to control someone who is off balance. Abuse is more about control than anything else. They don't particularly enjoy watching the suffering, they just want you to do what THEY want and it's easier when they have you confused. If you are in an abusive relationship, get out. Go to a shelter or somewhere that will offer you some protection, but do it now since things can go downhill quickly in an abusive relationship and many of those guys get the mentality that if THEY can't have you, nobody will.
Does an abusive person treat a new relationship better if the new person does what they say or want?
An abusive person tends to remain abusive unless they make a real effort to change. An abusive person will always be just that and no matter how much their new mate will agree with them they will still remain abusive. Abusive people either come from a family of abuse, something has happened to them in their lives that they are extremely angry at, and there is always a reason for the way they are. Sometimes it just comes down to the point that person is miserable and loves controlling their mate because they cannot control life in general. A relationship is about sharing each others dreams and opinions and the major one is respect. Neither mate should rule over the other, but share as best they can. It's a catch-22. Abusers despise submissive and obsequious people. But they also demand automatic and full compliance with their wishes and instructions.
If your husband is being abusive and you tell him that you're going to kill him if he doesn't let go are you being abusive?
People tend to say things in anger. Since your husband is abusive you should consider going to a Woman's Abuse House to find help and learn tools to cope. No one has the right to abuse the other. Your relationship is toxic and you are in control of your life and not your husband. To tell him you are going to kill him is a serious accusation and when you get to this point it's time for you to leave this abusive relationship.
Is it possible to turn an abusive relationship around?
Sometimes you are able to. It all depends on the relationship. I know you and your partner are deeply in love and you probably can not see yourself with out him or her. You need to sit down with your partner and decide if you both want to put in the effort, and counseling to fix your relationship. If it does not work, then no you can not fix an abusive relationship because it just is not meant to be. When you think about it, you should not try to isolate, control, or limit the one you love because that is not true love. If you have the thoughts of leaving your partner, then you should because if you were truly happy then you would not be having these thoughts. Moving on is a very hard thing, but with great friends to keep your mind off of him/her, it is possible. I experience this myself.
Will an abusive ex still try to control you even after you left?
if he is that abusive chances are he will but then only if you tolerate him.
Why do women seek out abusive men and what makes a man abusive?
Many times, women don't "seek out" abusive men necessarily, but women are often attracted to "bad" boys, and that is just the way it is, no reason for it. And of course those bad boys could end of being highly abusive. Men are abusive when they control everything in a their parter's life. There is physical abuse, and emotional abuse, and many other types. If you ever feel threatened or unsafe, that could be a sign of abuse and you have to get out of that relationship immediately before it becomes something you'll regret. Your "man" WILL ask for you back, but you just have to stay strong and listen to your heart!
If an abusive parent calls his son's basketball coach and tells him that he is not allowed to practice because of an attitude that stemmed from a parent's temper tantrum is this abuse by proxy?
He's wanting to have more control. It's a manipulation tactic, trying to control the coach. That's what abusive men do.
