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Can your husband really change if he has cheated on you told lies and emotionally abused you for 15 years?

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2005-10-23 00:27:23
2005-10-23 00:27:23

No, I am sorry to say he is not going to change. Abusers, like druggies or alcoholics that live in denial honestly think they are just fine and will not seek help. Even if they managed to seek psychological help they are egotistical enough to feel it's everyone else's fault or "no one understands them." It's called denial. Abusers have learned this style of life either from their environment or they felt through the years that they didn't get a fair shake in society and that the abuser should have a better position in life, more money or reveered more by their peers. Abusers seldom pick on other men, but take their frustrations out on those that are weaker than themselves such as their girlfriend, spouse, children or elderly parents. The abuser is actually a weak individual and is more fearful than the victim could ever realize. Abusers need total control of the environment around them and they are never settled in their environment and never at peace. If they weren't so violent at times one would have to feel sorry for them. Abusers can be dangerous, so never underestimate them. If you want to get out of this relationship there are "Abused Women's Centers" in your town/city or if you can't find the # simply phone "Mental Health" and they will guide you in the right direction. They will keep you in a "safe house" give you free legal help and counseling and get you on your feet. Good luck Marcy No, they tend to get worse instead of better. Someone I know is living the exact life for the exact amount of years. You have to quit waiting on a miracle to happen and learn to understand that you are not a failure.

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