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Does an abuser ever really change if your whole life has been torn upside down but you keep hoping for the best and you've lost everyone close to you including your children because you have hope?
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∙ 12y ago
Abuse is abuse lady I really can't tell you not to hope for change but be careful if he's hit you before he will hit you again and see he has a mind game going which you so to make you believe he's the only one for you but that's not true so pray on it I'm not going to tell you to not be hopeful for change but pray about it and ask God to give guidance and reveal the truth about him to you and if you have faith he will answer prayer and ask God to renew your relationship and ask for change and if that doesn't happen then let it go you deserve to be with someone who won't put their hands on you so be careful?
Seriously pray on it keep the faith and be careful!!
AnswerIf you have lost everything, such as you children and most likely your soul, your situation is tragic. Abused women finally stay away once they realise there is no hope. I am telling you he will not change. He is aware already of how much pain he has caused you and your children and it coninues. He is out to take away your entire being. I was with a man like that. They enver change, they give you the illusion (temporarily) of change but once you get comfortable again, I guarantee he will pull the rug out from under you and it will only get worse. I suggest you leave him, don't take anytthing besides you and your kids and go to a shelter. I was in a shelter in Surrey BC ten years ago and it was so much of a awakening to help me see the cycle of abuse. It will be horribly painfull, but there will come a day when you wake up and are able to breath without wondering whats he going to pull today. Life is too short. Please let me know how it goes for you.Wiki User
∙ 12y ago
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When does a court give an abuser custody of children?
When they have been determined to not be a an abuser. Courts do not grant custody of children to adults who have been determined to be abusive.When they have been determined to not be a an abuser. Courts do not grant custody of children to adults who have been determinedto be abusive.When they have been determined to not be a an abuser. Courts do not grant custody of children to adults who have been determinedto be abusive.When they have been determined to not be a an abuser. Courts do not grant custody of children to adults who have been determinedto be abusive.
How can you leave an abuser without him knowing?
See information in the related link below, which provides information on leaving an abuser, as well as how to protect yourself and your children.
Person who catches children for some evil work?
Kidnapper, child abuser
Explain why both adults and children keep child abuse a secret?
There are many different reasons that children and adults remain silent about the "secret" of abuse, including: - scared that the abuser will hurt or fatally injure them - fear that the abuser will hurt or fatally injure a love one - embarrassment - the abuser convinced the victim that "no one will believe you" - the abuser convinced the victim that "you wanted it as much as I did" - the abuser uses bribes or any form of "currency" that the child needs or wants including attention, money, gifts, or special treats - the victim starts to believe he/she did "want it" simply because he/she wanted the items the abuser promised - just want to pretend it never happened - don't know it's abuse - the lack of words to define or describe what happed - the abuse occurred at night so that the incidents become clouded "as if a dream" - the victim dissociates so there is a wall between "now" and what occurred "before now", even during the abuse - the victim suffers from Stockholm's syndrom (start to have feeling for the abuser and will sympathised with the abuser) Parents who do nothing after being told by a child about abuse often do not tell anyone because: - the parent is the abuser in many cases OR.... - the parent/s do not understand the danger of abuse, even if they have another child in the home - the abuser is the mother's boyfriend so the mother chooses her boyfriend over the child - the abuser is the mother's boyfriend and the mother cannot get away from him - the abuser is the father who also commits domestic violence--the mother feels she cannot safely leave and take her children with her - the abuser is the spouse or boyfriend who has threatened the mother as well as the kids and the victim - the parent fears involvement of child welfare - the parent was also an abused child so he or she thinks "I got through it, so can you" - the parent feels powerless - the parent is in denial - the parent has a mental illness and is ineffective at protecting a child - the abuser is the parent's workplace boss and the parent needs the job so therefore chooses not to tell the authorities OR.... Both parents or the mother and a live-in boyfriend commit the abuse together against the child.
The power relationship between the abuser and the victim?
The victim has no power or they would not be abused. The abuser always has the control. Children and the elderly are victimized often in society as well as men and women. The abuser will start out by abusing psychologically and 'put down' their victim until they leave their victim confused with no self confidence. The abuser may threaten to leave their victim (this is terrifying to the elderly); leave the wife and take the children; talk of killing the victim or anyone that is close to them. The abuser often isolates their victim so their victim has no family or friends to turn too and they have to suffer in silence and depend on their abuser.
Can you trust an abuser to honor agreements?
Generally , no you cannot. An abuser by nature is not trustworthy. When someone abuses you, they tell you right there that you are less. They lie and blame to make you think that you are responsible for the abuse- you made them do it. They seem to be able to treat everyone else, including strangers, better than you. Abuse is a vicious cycle. The abuser may mask the problem for a while and get you to feel comfortable in the relationship but the cycle will always kick in again because the reason they abuse is always there in their own head. Remember that ab abuser must always try to control, intimidate and manipulate you so they will agree to anything just to fool you into staying in the relationship. You need to seek professional advice to help you understand why you accept that kind of treatment and how you can move on with your life without the abuser.
Why were people trying to kill Freddy cougar?
I assume you mean Freddy Krueger? Because he is a murderer, particularly of children. And in certain story lines a child abuser as well.
When other family members of the abuser ignore the abuse and does not speak with the abuser about their problem are they more so but nonverbal telling their children it is ok?
If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem . Tell the abuser s/he is a blot on the family escutcheon and a bad example for the kids.
What makes claude debussy unique?
claude debussy loved little children, considered a child abuser.
Is bullying a child abuse?
Yes, they are related. Often a child who bullies learns the behavior at home. Children model what they live and see. Parent who bullies is an abuser and he/she learned this as a child as well. A child of a person who abuse others becomes the abuser later.
What role does fear play in abusive relationships?
The abuser of the victim will first alienate the victim from their family and friends and can even move to another town in some cases. An abuser is sly as a fox and at first often can win over not only the victim with kindness and generosity, but also win over family and friends. However, there are many cases where family and friends can often see right through the abuser even before he segregates his victim. Once the two are alone the changes can come quickly such as verbal abuse (the abuser is inwardly unhappy about their own failures in life and will transfer this onto the victim) and then the physical abuse often comes next. Sometimes the abuser will never apologize to his victim, but many do and continue to promise that they will never do it again, but they do. The abuser is aware they have total control over their victim and if the victim shows any sign of independence or that they are going to leave the relationship this is when the real fear starts because the abuser will instill the fear of either killing their victim; their family or, if there are children the abuser may threaten to harm the children or have the victim believe she will never get her children as she is an unfit mother. The victim is basically brainwashed; lost all confidence in themselves; has been alienated from her family and friends and has nowhere to turn. The fear is real and the threats from the abuser are often real as well.
What do dogs do to abusers?
Dogs either do nothing because they are scared or they attack the abuser...
