How can I end an affair when I cheated on my husband without hurting the other guy and help my marriage without my husband finding out because it will only hurt his feelings?

Answer 1

• Humans make mistakes for different reasons. It is obvious you are missing something in your marriage; perhaps your husband takes you for granted; you have lost touch with each others feelings; you feel lonely; perhaps depressed; perhaps at an age you feel you need to know you are still attractive to another man. Unfortunately, you will have to tell the man you are having the affair with that you think highly of him, but you had no business getting involved with him while married and you want to work things out with your husband. He should be mature enough to understand and he will get over the hurt. Honesty is always the best policy. After you have told this other man then you should communicate with your husband and ask if he would consider going to marriage counseling to perk up your marriage. He may not want to go, but give it a try. If he should refuse and ask what is wrong with the marriage tell him (it's the truth) that many marriage can hit stale points and you could go on a romantic getaway so both of you will be more attentive to each other without distractions.